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Rage is a primitive, immature child-like expression of thwarted needs and/or (actual or perceived) invalidation. For most people, anger goes through several levels of emotion, each level requiring a certain level of self-control. According to psychiatrist Adam Blatner, there are seven levels of anger: | Rage is a primitive, immature child-like expression of thwarted needs and/or (actual or perceived) invalidation. For most people, anger goes through several levels of emotion, each level requiring a certain level of self-control. According to psychiatrist Adam Blatner, there are seven levels of anger: | ||
* Stress Feeling angry subconsciously but not demonstrating it. | * Stress. Feeling angry subconsciously but not demonstrating it. | ||
* Anxiety Anger shown through subtle clues. | * Anxiety. Anger shown through subtle clues. | ||
* Agitation Displeasure is shown without blame. | * Agitation. Displeasure is shown without blame. | ||
* Irritation A little more displeasure to elicit a response. | * Irritation. A little more displeasure to elicit a response. | ||
* Frustration Anger with a scowl or harsh words. | * Frustration. Anger with a scowl or harsh words. | ||
* Anger Anger with loudness of speech and expression. | * Anger. Anger with loudness of speech and expression. | ||
* Rage Losing temper and getting into a rage; aggression. | * Rage. Losing temper and getting into a rage; aggression. | ||
It appears that narcissists do not go through the 7 stages like other people do. The smallest infraction will send them right to level 7-rage. Why is that? Their rage seems to be caused by any threat to their ego, and the ensuing rage acts to erase that threat and maintain their self image and feelings of superiority. To narcissists, rage is a perfectly appropriate response when they experience any threat to their view of self. | It appears that narcissists do not go through the 7 stages like other people do. The smallest infraction will send them right to level 7-rage. Why is that? Their rage seems to be caused by any threat to their ego, and the ensuing rage acts to erase that threat and maintain their self image and feelings of superiority. To narcissists, rage is a perfectly appropriate response when they experience any threat to their view of self. | ||
After being the victim of a narcissistic rage, you will probably find yourself going over and over the events that happened in order to try to pin down what caused the outburst-and you probably just don’t get it. However, if you choose to stay in a relationship with a narcissist, for your safety, you need to fully understand what triggers this behavior and why it happens. That way you may be able to avoid triggering the narcissistic rage and create a safer environment for yourself. Remember, too, that you are not responsible for these rages; what you are witnessing is the narcissist’s reaction to feelings of shame.<ref>[https://thenarcissisticlife.com//what-is-narcissistic-rage/ Narcissistic Life]</ref> | After being the victim of a narcissistic rage, you will probably find yourself going over and over the events that happened in order to try to pin down what caused the outburst-and you probably just don’t get it. However, if you choose to stay in a relationship with a narcissist, for your safety, you need to fully understand what [[Emotional Triggers|triggers this behavior]] and why it happens. That way you may be able to avoid triggering the narcissistic rage and create a safer environment for yourself. Remember, too, that you are not responsible for these rages; what you are witnessing is the narcissist’s reaction to feelings of shame.<ref>[https://thenarcissisticlife.com//what-is-narcissistic-rage/ Narcissistic Life]</ref> | ||
==References== | ==References== | ||