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Our planet is evolving into a coalescence of collective race fields which create [[Group Consciousness]] and this is not a choice, it is a fact during the [[Ascension Cycle]]. This means we will need to become aware of what [[Group Consciousness]] means and how it impacts us in our day to day life, as well as every relationship we have on this planet.  
Our planet is evolving into a coalescence of collective race fields which create [[Group Consciousness]] and this is not a choice, it is a fact during the [[Ascension Cycle]]. This means we will need to become aware of what [[Group Consciousness]] means and how it impacts us in our day to day life, as well as every relationship we have on this planet.  


In any type of organization or [[Group Consciousness]] it is extremely challenging to navigate in uncleared individual and group [[Negative Ego]] behaviors. [[Negative Ego]] behaviors are usually entwined with low ethical conduct which '''damages building trust between people''' in order to communicate transparently and honestly about a variety of topics. In order to evolve and learn how to build basic [[Group Consciousness]] communication skills we each must develop commitment to hold accountability to our personal circumstances and the [[GSF Behavior]]s that each of us choose to demonstrate every day.
In any type of organization or [[Group Consciousness]] it is extremely challenging to navigate in uncleared individual and group [[Negative Ego]] behaviors and determine what behaviors define as [[Leadership Vs. Tyranny]]. [[Negative Ego]] behaviors are usually entwined with low ethical conduct which '''damages building trust between people''' in order to communicate transparently and honestly about a variety of topics. In order to evolve and learn how to build basic [[Group Consciousness]] communication skills we each must develop commitment to hold accountability to our personal circumstances and the [[GSF Behavior]]s that each of us choose to demonstrate every day.


This information is to help better discern the qualities of [[Leadership Vs. Tyranny]] in [[Group Consciousness]] or in any type or organizational structure.  
We have been confused to discern the qualities of Leadership and authoritative influence over others as defined by egocentric and alpha type of behaviors which lead to control orientation and tyrannical oppression. We all want to stay clear of feeding the tyrant as a leader or authority.When we are clearer to identify control-oriented authority and tyrannical authority based on the negative ego profiles shared here, we are more equipped to discern proper authority patterns when involved with any kind of leadership scenario. Wherever there is an organization or group, there will be some kind of stewardship or responsibility of authority to serve that organization. In the highest expression, we want to learn how to self-lead in a healthy and balanced way through the development of strong moral character and trustworthy traits, modeled through the community that we may observe or participate with. This way by learning self-mastery or leadership skills, one is building confidence in free thinking and free expression while embodying ethical conduct necessary to be spiritually sovereign. Otherwise we are [[Mind Control|mind controlled]] puppets playing out repeated archetypes of drama and like a hamster on a wheel, running in circles of karmic looping.I hope this is helpful now and in the future as we develop this skill of [[Trust, Building Trust|discerning trustworthiness]] in ourselves and others, as well as the prevention of feeding, rewarding and giving authoritative power in any way to [[Narcissism|narcissistic]] and [[Psychopathy|psychopathic behavior]].
 
This information is to help better discern the qualities of [[Leadership Vs. Tyranny]] in [[Group Consciousness]] or in any type or organizational structure. <ref name="tyranny">[http://www.emotionalcompetency.com/tyranny.htm Tyranny]</ref>


==Discerning Tyrants and Controllers==
==Discerning Tyrants and Controllers==
Tyranny is about the abuse of power over others. Whether it's a pushy person, a control freak, a bully, or an outright tyrant, the problem is the same: their goals are always more important than yours. A difficult, pushy person has gone too far again. They are bossing you around, acting selfish and self-important, threatening you, making demands, barking orders, and abusing their power. Control freaks, imperative people, and tyrants exercise power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive manner. They are oppressive, harsh, arbitrary people who make life difficult for too many of us. They are annoying, inconsiderate, and demeaning. What are they thinking? How can we respond constructively?
Tyranny is about the abuse of power over others through a variety of methods; deception, lying, manipulation,[[Mind Control]], bullying and intimidation. Whether it's a pushy person, a control freak, a bully, or an outright tyrant, the problem is the same: their goals are always more important than yours. A difficult, pushy person has gone too far again. They are bossing you around, acting selfish and self-important, threatening you, making demands, barking orders, and abusing their power. Control freaks, imperative people, and tyrants exercise power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive manner. They are oppressive, harsh, arbitrary people who make life difficult for too many of us. They are annoying, inconsiderate, and demeaning. What are they thinking? How can we respond constructively?


''Caution: Control-oriented people as described here expect to control the people and events around them. Exposing or challenging their tactics could provoke their anger and result in severe and possibly dangerous retaliation. Expect to be a target of their backlash. Protect yourself and others who could become targets before challenging a control-oriented person.''
''Caution: Control-oriented people as described here expect to control the people and events around them. Exposing or challenging their tactics could provoke their anger and result in severe and possibly dangerous retaliation. Expect to be a target of their backlash. Protect yourself and others who could become targets before challenging a control-oriented person.''
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==Negative Ego Behavior of Tyrants==
==Negative Ego Behavior of Tyrants==


Tyranny can creep into our thoughts as [[Negative Ego]] behavior to a greater or lesser degree. Here are some categories, arranged in increasing degrees of dominance and disregard for others.
Tyranny can creep into our thoughts as [[Negative Ego]] behavior to a greater or lesser degree. Here are some categories, arranged in increasing degrees of dominance and disregard for others.<ref name="tyranny" />
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[[File:Ego-Behavior.jpg|Negative Ego Tyrant Behavior]]
!Cause/Deficiency!!Behavior
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| Low Self-esteem
| Fragile high self esteem drives these people to act superior to disguise their inferior feelings. Controlling others is one manifestation of their need to act superior.
 
  |-
| Healthy Self-esteem
| This is the desired condition. True leaders act from healthy high esteem.
 
  |-  
| Egotism
| Egotists are self-centered. They have been seduced by their first-person viewpoint. It's all about them; they are motivated only by their own self-interests. They lack empathy for others. They are controlling because only their needs matter.
 
  |-
| Narcissism
| Narcissists have a grandiose sense of self-importance. They exaggerate their achievements and expect to be recognized as superior, even when their accomplishments are ordinary. They fantasize attaining unlimited success or power. They believe they are special and require excessive admiration. They lack empathy and exploit others to achieve their own ends. They often envy others or believe others envy them. They are controlling because only they matter.
 
  |-
| Psychopath
| Psychopaths are anti-social. They totally disregard the rights of others. They feel little or no remorse for the harm they cause others. They blame the victim and lack empathy. They are deceitful, aggressive, tough minded, glib, superficial, exploitative, irresponsible, and impulsive. Yet they may display a superficial charm. They are controlling because others don't matter.
 
|}


==Leaders Vs. Tyrants==
==Leaders Vs. Tyrants==
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Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership.
Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership.


[[File:Tyrant-vs-Leader.jpg|Tyrant Vs. Leader]]
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==Healthy Self Control==
!Leaders!!Tyrants
It is certainly important for us to develop [[12 Practices of Self Awareness|control ourselves]] and have discipline over our impulses in many aspects of our lives. Self-control is an important attribute of [[Spiritual Maturity]], and an essential component of interconnection and feeling empathy for humanity and the planet. Achieving a healthy balance of self discipline and self control is an essential element of personal responsibility and accountability. Loss of self control leads to anxiety, unhappiness, anger, resentment, stress, feeling helpless, and even depression. Abdicating one's personal power over self control, by acting powerless, and playing the [[Victim-Victimizer]] role playing, is irresponsible and self destructive. But keep in mind that our personal and spiritual freedom ends where other's begins. One must honor human beings and life force in order to achieve a healthy balance with self discipline and control with considering the rights and needs of others and having respect for others.
|-  
| Visionary; holds a clear, compelling, well thought-out, and constructive vision for the future. Focused while maintaining broad perspective.
| Visionary, but fixated on a narrow view. Narrowly focused.


==Control goes beyond Autonomy and Competence==
|-
| Determined; they persistently pursue their goal and are undaunted by obstacles and setbacks.
| Relentless, tenacious, unyielding, rigid, close-minded, dogmatic, and stubborn.


|-
| Influential; communicates passionately to engage people.
| Influential, charismatic, captivating, engaging.


Autonomy—responsible free choice—is a basic human need. But control goes beyond autonomy because it goes beyond what is reasonable or necessary and ignores the needs and freedoms of other people. Control is autonomy gone awry because it is unmitigated by relatedness. Control ignores the no-trespassing sign that autonomy respects.
|-
| Passionate; remains committed and focused on the goal with heart and soul.
| Obsessed; the goal is all that matters. It must be achieved at all costs.


|-
| Increase trust. Followers are intrinsically motivated and provide enduring support.
| Increase fear. Followers are extrinsically motivated and support ends when the coercion ends. Often resentment endures.


==Competence==
|-
| Enthusiastic.
| Zealot.


|-
| Connected with others.
| Separate from others. Isolated, alone and apart.


Competence is successfully meeting an optimum challenge—is also a basic human need that is similar to but not the same as control. You can reasonably ask: How can I succeed at a task if I can't control the activities required for the task? Again the distinction is the consideration given to the rights of others with a capacity to feel empathy.
|-
| Empathy for others. Humble.
| Apathy for others. Arrogant.


|-
| Healthy self-esteem. Accurate and realistic self-appraisal. Solicits and accepts feedback and criticism.
| Low, or fragile-high self-esteem. Egotism, narcissism, or even psychopathic. Inaccurate and Unrealistic self-appraisal. Avoids and rejects criticism and all but overwhelmingly positive feedback.


==Out of Balance==
|-
Why do they act so bossy? What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs out of balance.
| Primarily concerned for the cause, the organization, and the people being lead.
==Reducing Anxiety==
| Concerned only for the self.
The mistaken belief that what I can control can't hurt me drives the behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by the fear that they will lose control, or at least needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every threat. They lose track of what they can changeand what they cannot. They chose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety. There is certainly enough to worry about: the ambitious boss-under-pressure worries the work won't get done, envious co-workers worry you'll get the promotion instead of them, jealous adults worry about their partners; scarcity leads to resource contention, stature-conscious, resentful, or caring but inept parents worry about the kids; and tormented, willful, or confused kids worry about the parents and each other. It must be exhausting.Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, unless you try to control the uncontrollable or change the unchangeable. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat.


|-
| Broadly and ethically principled. Fair and generous.
| Unprincipled or narrowly principled. Selfish.


==Getting it Right==
|-
An obsession with getting it right—when driven by the fear of failure—can result in controlling behavior. Perhaps the control freak does have an important vision worth achieving. Perhaps the goals are worth working hard toward. Perhaps obsessive attention to detail is the best way to get the all-important result. Perhaps they have an outsized but narrow and rigid sense of duty. They may not see other options for solving problems and getting things done. They may be trapped by their own set of rigid but ill-founded rules. Perhaps the control freak just cares more than you do about the goal. They may see the goal as much more important than the relationship, and they don't see how to preserve both. Perhaps the enthusiast has crossed the line and become the zealot. The control freak is deathly afraid of failure, and they don't trust anyone else to get it right.To placate your micromanaging boss try to establish a better working relationship, demonstrate your interest, concern, dedication, knowledge, and competency; keep the boss informed, request moreautonomy. Put the boss at ease, address his fears, work to understand the pressures he faces and his point of view, and he may allow you the space you need to contribute your best.
| Responsible.
| Irresponsible.


|-
| Internal Locus of Control.
| External Locus of Control.


==Impatience==
|-
Impatience—the fear of running late—can stimulate controlling behavior. Often impatient people usurp control in an attempt to speed events along and get more done. This quick-fix rarely works. As the signs say “The hurrier I go the behinder I get,” and “Look before you leap.”Doing as a substitute for Being:I make up for my pathetic being with more and more doing. I have a relentless sense of duty; I cannot say no. If I do enough my value will become obvious, even to me.
| Consistent, reliable, logical, authentic, well adjusted, and emotionally stable.
| Volatile, whacky, irritable.


|-
| Realistic.
| Optimistic.


==Contingent Self-esteem==
|-  
The biggest secret is that I'm not as good as I appear to be. My image has to be controlled at all cost. Because I feel inferior, I have to act superior. My biggest fear is that someone will discover I'm a wimp. The only opinion I have of myself is the opinion others have of me. How I feel depends entirely on what you think of me. I depend desperately on your approval to establish and maintain my self-worth. I work full time to cover up my vulnerability. I crave your affirmation and approval. I must control or even humiliate you so you don't humiliate me.These people don't understand that their self-worth and dignity is intrinsic and is not provided by others. Also, stature is only achieved on an absolute scale, and is not evaluated in comparison to others.
| Listens and dialogues.
| Monologs, lectures, preaches and engages in tirades.


==First Person-Viewpoint==
|-  
We all view the world from our unique first-person viewpoint. But if other viewpoints can't be comprehended, or this viewpoint is unmitigated by healthy relationships with others, or feeling empathy, it becomes disconnected, uncaring, unchecked, fixated, and destructive. This is the root of egotism. The egotist forgets that his freedom ends where other's freedom begins. The belief (or fear) that “no one can get the job done as well as I can” or “if you want it done right, do it yourself” drives many control freaks to interfere, bosses to micro-manage, and poor leaders to overreach. Along with their first-person viewpoint, a fear of failure drives them to control every aspect of their world as they attempt to ensure success and reduce their anxiety. In any case the control freak is preserving their own interests at the expense of other's. Children are born believing they are the center of the universe; tyrants never outgrow this belief.
| Respects reciprocity and symmetry.
| Strongly asymmetrical.


|-
| Open, communicative.
| Secretive.


==Mistrusting Others==
|-
The control freak may simply mistrust others. There can be several causes for this including past betrayals, poor  relationships, or poor communication or delegation skills. They may criticize other's work and find it unacceptable. The control freak believes that since others can't be trusted to get the job done, there is no alternative to doing it yourself.To work with such an untrusting control freak it may be helpful to gain their trust carefully and gradually over time.
| Concerned with substance.
| Concerned with image.


|-
| Evidence based.
| Dominance based.


==Controlling Resources==
|-
Control freaks may hold the mistaken belief that the person with the most toys wins.
| Considerate
| Invasive, intrusive, and obnoxious.


|-
| High, relevant, consistent, and attainable performance standards.
| Perfectionist, demanding, inconsistent.


==Unaware==
|-
Perhaps the control freak just does not know any better and is unaware of more constructive and effective approaches to achieving goals. Perhaps abuse is all they have ever known. Perhaps the only approach they ever learned for dealing with people is to abuse them. Perhaps their only role models were other control freaks. Perhaps you can have compassion for their ignorance and help them learn better approaches to building relationships.
| Provides helpful and balanced feedback.
| Critical and demanding.


|-
| Understands boundaries and respects sexual energy
| Abuses power through sexual control


==Hierarchies==
|}
Organizations are typically organized as hierarchies, with several people reporting to one boss. While this is a common and often effective organization structure, it is no excuse for an abusive boss, and it does not diminish the value of any of the humans in the organization, regardless of their position the formal hierarchy. Carefully designed organizations put in place mechanisms, such as upward feedback, anonymous reporting, and ombudsmen, to prevent or provide early warning of abuse.


==Healthy Self Control==
It is certainly important for us to develop [[12 Practices of Self Awareness|self control and awareness of ourselves]] and have discipline over our impulses in many aspects of our lives. Self-control is an important attribute of [[Spiritual Maturity]], and an essential component of interconnection and feeling empathy for humanity and the planet. Achieving a healthy balance of self discipline and self control is an essential element of personal responsibility and accountability. Loss of self control leads to anxiety, unhappiness, anger, resentment, stress, feeling helpless, and even depression. Abdicating one's personal power over self control, by acting powerless, and playing the [[Victim-Victimizer]] role playing, is irresponsible and self destructive. But keep in mind that our personal and spiritual freedom ends where other's begins. One must honor human beings and life force in order to achieve a healthy balance with self discipline and control with considering the rights and needs of others and having respect for others.<ref name="tyranny" />


==Having a Bad Day==
==Discern Competence==
Leadership competence is successfully meeting an optimum challenge in a group environment which is similar to the capacity of a basic human need as, exerting healthy personal self control and self discipline in one's life. These are requirements of self mastery before leadership competence in any group environment is possible. By paying attention to consistent and demonstrated behaviors in leadership, and having awareness of [[Negative Ego]], Tyrant behaviors, [[Pain Body]], [[Lack of Empathy]] and other [[Archontic Deception Behavior]]s, one can develop much more accurate assessment of conditions, therefore improved discernment. 


To help with a benchmark in making one's own personal and private assessment of the competency of the leadership of a [[Group Consciousness]], spiritual community or other project group, and the values which are espoused, one applies “[[Trust, Building Trust|trust building]]” inquiries toward the leadership and the group’s mission or project statement. This is a measurement of energetic and verbal cohesion, does the group behave in alignment to the words and values which are communicated?


When people are under unusual stress they may react by seizing control. Perhaps a generally reasonable person has just been stuck in traffic, had a fight with their spouse, got bad news from the doctor, learned they are about to lose their job, or bounced a check. They may react to this stress by being uncharacteristically difficult and controlling for some period of time. If a generally reasonable person is acting unreasonable today, then perhaps you can wait for their stress to pass and they will return to their more reasonable selves. A good person in bad circumstances deserves your compassion, not your provocation.
Is there a representation of competence and ability with the leadership role and is it demonstrated in ways that are competent and trustworthy? Can you place yourself in the leadership position? What human behaviors are required to respect and honor the rights of all people? See [[Law of One]].


==Reducing Anxiety==
What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs that are out of balance and potentially destructive.


==Responding to Tyrants==
The mistaken belief that what I can control fully, cannot hurt me drives the [[Negative Ego]] behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by their internal fear that they will lose control, or at least the needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every perceived threat, whether real or imagined. They lose track of what they can change and what they cannot change. They choose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety by controlling and manipulating others around them.  
We can choose how we respond to tyrants. There are alternatives to oppression.Overcome our Fear:Tyrants exploit our primal fears and we typically cower from them. We are seduced by their influence and succumb to their threats as we are easily blinded by fear, anxiety, shame, hate, or guilt. We yield to their tantrums. Fear can easily lead to primal thinking, tunnel vision, and panic. But courage can overcome our fears and with careful and creative planning we can confront the tyrant.
 


==Endure and Survive==
The [[Consumptive Modeling]] of energy vampirism that exerts control over others and manipulating scenarios is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, feeling powerless. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to their needs, belief systems, or whatever else.
Slaves endured the oppression and humiliation of slavery for many years. It was not acceptance, but merely survival until they could work toward better treatment. Tyrants often come and go, perhaps you can wait this one out.


==Perfectionism==
An obsession with perfectionism and when driven by the fear of failure may also result in manipulating and controlling behavior. Perhaps the control freak just cares more than you do about the goal. They may see the goal as much more important than the human relationship, and they don't have the skill or see how they can preserve both. The control freak is deathly afraid of personal failure, which means to them a lack of self worth, thus, they do not trust anyone else to get it right. If one is in a job with a micromanaging boss it may be helpful to try to establish a better working relationship, through compassionate feelings of empathy and concern. While demonstrating one's interest, concern, dedication, knowledge, and competency; keep the boss informed, and request more autonomy in the work or project. Address any fears, apply effort to understand the pressures they may face from their point of view, and they may allow you the space you need to contribute your best.


==Understand their Point of View==
==Impatience==
Perhaps the tyrant really does have it right. Work to adopt his point of view and understand where he is “coming from”, what problems he is facing, and what he is trying to accomplish. See if this helps to make his actions and motives more clear. Even tyrants deserve our empathy. Perhaps adopting his viewpoint will allow you to see alternative solutions, or at least cope better.
Often impatient people usurp control in an attempt to speed events along and get more done. Many times taking the shortcut does not help anyone to get better results any quicker. Patience is a one of the [[Spirits of Christ]] and is developed to learn better self control and discipline in one's mental focus. Impatience creates self entitlement, while Patience creates the inner discipline to earn [[Virtues]] upon developing one's own skill and competency. This quick-fix rarely works and is hidden behind many layers of facade which is built upon a house of cards ready to fall.


==Low Self-Esteem==
The biggest secret of a Tyrant is that I am not as good as I make myself to appear to be to the public. My public image has to be controlled at all cost and a image is projected to be what the public wants rather than the truth. Because the Tyrant feels inferior, the Tyrant generates ego defenses or ego pathology to act superior. With low self esteem the only opinion I have of myself is the opinion that others have of me. How I feel depends entirely on what others think of me and assign as a value. I depend desperately on other people's approval to establish and maintain my feelings of  self-worth. Thus, the Tyrant may control or even humiliate others first in so that the others do not humiliate them. These people governed by [[Negative Ego]] and ruled by the [[Pain Body]] do not understand that their self-worth and dignity is intrinsic and is not provided by others. Also, tyrants evaluate their stature to be achieved on an absolute scale, and is not evaluated in comparison to others.


==Disengage==
==First Person-Viewpoint==
If you don't like it, change it. If you can't change it, leave. Acknowledge the oppression, understand the tyrant, consider your alternatives, and choose your battles carefully. Decide what you choose to changeand what you choose to avoid. If this is just not a situation where you have the strength, interest, resources, or will to change now, you may decide to disengage and live to fight another day. If your boss is a tyrant arrange for a reassignment or leave the organization.
We all view the world from our unique first-person viewpoint and perspective. But if other people's viewpoints cannot be comprehended, or there is a [[Lack of Empathy]] towards others, the viewpoint or ideology becomes disconnected, uncaring, unchecked, fixated, obsessed and destructive. This is the root of [[Negative Ego]]. The belief (or fear) that “no one can get the job done as well as I can” or “if you want it done right, do it yourself” drives many control freaks to interfere, bosses to micro-manage, and poor leaders to manipulate or overreach. Along with their first-person viewpoint, and inability to feel compassion for others position, their fear of failure drives them to control every aspect of their world as they attempt to ensure success and reduce their anxiety. In any case the control freak is preserving their own selfish interests at the expense of other's. Children are born believing they are at the center of the universe; tyrants never outgrow this belief.


==Disconnected and Unaware==
Some tyrants and control freaks are enmeshed in the [[Negative Ego]] and [[Pain Body]] and in most cases just do not know any better and are unaware of more positive and effective approaches to achieving goals. Perhaps self destructive habits, addictive tendencies and abuse is all they have ever known. Many tyrants have been conditioned to learn the  only approach they ever witnessed in dealing with other people is to abuse and control them. Perhaps one can have compassion for their [[Negative Ego]] ignorance and help them learn better approaches to building relationships based on trust and character building.


==Tower, Don't Cower==
==Responding to Tyrants==
Although the typical reaction is to cower in response to the tyrant's threats, there is a more elevated and enlightened viewpoint. If we recognize the many fallacies tyrants rely on, and recognize tyrants as the lonely and childish school-yard bullies they are we can avoid being controlled by them. Spoiled brats do not deserve the attention they demand. Uncover, dispel, and shatter the myth. This viewpoint recognizes these powerful truths: Dignity is intrinsic to every human. It does not have to be earned, it cannot be granted, and it cannot be taken away. The tyrant can neither strip you of your dignity nor can he provide you with dignity. We all share a long list of intrinsic similarities. You remain a worthy human being regardless of what the tyrant does. It is your own choice, your own asset, do not squander it. The oppressed are no less worthy than the powerful.The tyrant's freedom ends where yours begins. When the tyrant's will infringes on your autonomy, a negotiation is required to resolve the conflict. The situation is symmetrical, you each have rights,boundaries, and limits. Seek shared values to provide principles that can help transcend or decide theconflict. Create alternatives that eliminate the conflict and make it unnecessary. Identify trespass, make it visible, and do not tolerate it.First person viewpoint is the fundamental asymmetry of humanity. The tyrant is seduced by his own narrow viewpoint. He considers only what he sees and he experiences that clearly, uniquely, and powerfully. His point of view is not moderated by healthy and respectful relationships with people who have alternative viewpoints. Perhaps he is unaware, or intolerant of diverse or conflicting viewpoints. He may fear skepticism and inquiry. He does not welcome criticism or differing points of view. He may not even be aware of any alternative viewpoints. Perhaps he is uncomfortable with complexity. But his is only one out of the six-billion valid viewpoints on this planet. Your own point of view is equally valid. Find a forum, express your views, and begin the dialogue. The storyteller provides only one viewpoint—it is inherently selective and biased. Go tell your story—it is equally valid and important.Hate can only be sustained by cognitive error. The tyrant works to control or eliminate something or someone he sees as the obstacle to his goals. He has named the evil other, he hates it, and it must be destroyed. But choosing to hate is an ineffective shortcut that avoids the hard work of analyzing the problem in depth. Hating attributes blame incorrectly; it misallocates right and wrong. To defuse the hate, assess the situation from another perspective, analyze the problem in more depth, identify the real causes, eliminate the errors in thinking, and move forward with an effective solution.  
We can choose how we respond to tyrants. There are alternatives to oppression.Overcome our Fear:Tyrants exploit our primal fears and we typically cower from them. We are seduced by their influence and succumb to their threats as we are easily blinded by fear, anxiety, shame, hate, or guilt. We yield to their tantrums. Fear can easily lead to primal thinking, tunnel vision, and panic. But courage can overcome our fears and with careful and creative planning we can confront the tyrant.


Disengage: If you don't like it, change it. If you can't change it, leave. Acknowledge the oppression, understand the tyrant, consider your alternatives, and choose your battles carefully. Decide what you choose to change and what you choose to avoid. If this is just not a situation where you have the strength, interest, resources, or will to change now, you may decide to disengage and live to fight another day. If your boss is a tyrant arrange for a reassignment or leave the organization.


Tyranny is dishonorable. History judges tyrants harshly.  
Tower, Don't Cower: Although the typical reaction is to cower in response to the tyrant's threats, there is a more elevated and enlightened viewpoint. If we recognize the many deceptions and fallacies tyrants rely on, and recognize tyrants as the lonely and childish school-yard bullies they are, then we can avoid being bullied and controlled by them. Spoiled brats do not deserve the attention they demand. Uncover, dispel, and shatter the myth . This viewpoint recognizes these powerful truths: Dignity is intrinsic to every human. It does not have to be earned, it cannot be granted, and it cannot be taken away. The tyrant can neither strip you of your dignity nor can he provide you with dignity. We all share a long list of intrinsic similarities. You remain a worthy human being regardless of what the tyrant does. It is your own choice, your own asset, do not squander it. The oppressed are no less worthy than the powerful.  


The tyrant works to control or eliminate something or someone he sees as the obstacle to his goals. He has named the evil other, he hates it, and it must be destroyed. But choosing to hate is an ineffective shortcut that avoids the hard work of analyzing the problem in depth. Hating attributes blame incorrectly; it misallocates right and wrong. To defuse the hate, assess the situation from another perspective, analyze the problem in more depth, identify the real causes, eliminate the errors in thinking, and move forward with an effective solution. The best leaders are the best servants.


Hitler and his new wife, Eva Braun, committed suicide in his underground bunker in Berlin in the final days of World War II.
==Leaders Care about People==
 
Leadership is not about controlling people; it's about caring for people and being a useful resource for people. The best leaders help people work together and do their best to achieve an important goal. Their actions focus on accomplishing as a team much more than any one person could accomplish alone. Leadership is about helping people attain the goal, not about aggrandizing the leader. Tyrants don't serve and servants don't control.
 
Joseph Stalin's crash programs of industrialization and collectivization in the 1930s, along with his ongoing campaigns of political repression, are estimated to have cost the lives of millions of people.  


==Scapegoating==
Tyrants are not leaders, and any contrary myths need to be exposed as false. Scapegoats are chosen as convenient proxies. They are easy targets chosen to accept blame, displace responsibility for problems from where it truly belongs, and to distract attention from the actual problems. Tyrants identify scapegoats to distract attention from their own misdeeds. The scapegoat is not the problem, don't be distracted, look elsewhere for the real cause. Analyze cause and effect more carefully, avoid the fallacy of disproportionate responsibility, determine more accurately where responsibly actually belongs. Draw attention away from the scapegoat and toward the real problem. Courage can overcome fear. The tyrant uses fear to keep us from seeing alternatives. In the face of his intimidation we typically freeze, flee, become anger locked, or submit to his demands. But if we can focus, summon our courage, relax, comprehend the situation, and develop alternatives, we can create options for moving forward constructively.


Saddam Hussein was convicted of charges related to the executions of 148 Iraqi Shiites suspected of planning an assassination attempt against him, and was sentenced to death by hanging. Saddam was executed on December 30, 2006.  
Oppression teaches you to become passive, powerless and to stop trying to help yourself. But you can reassess your options and decide to take action to end the oppression. Everyone, even the tyrant, is vulnerable. Study the tyrant to find out his weaknesses. Balance the power. Apply your strength where he is most weak. Calmly describe how natural forces resisting the tyrant will eventually defeat his efforts.It is possible to speak truth to power. Don't be distracted or intimidated by the tyrant's positional power, reputation, physical appearance; wincing, bellowing, or rolling eyes; physical surroundings, or other attempts to emphasize a disparity in power and importance. Do not tolerate [[Negative Ego]] rants. Do your homework, get the facts right, and present your case clearly, calmly, and persuasively. One can challenge an authority by respectfully asking: “How do you know?”, “Why do you say what you say?”, “What is the evidence to support your position?”, and “Who disagrees with you?”


==Transparency and Open Source==
There are important alternatives, including: peace of mind, integrity, giving and gaining the respect of others, tranquility, clean air, clean water, the beauty of nature, a healthy environment to enjoy now and sustain for the future, family, friendships,community, safety, stability, trust, leisure time, meaningful work, authentic experiences, reciprocity, good health, reduced stress, ongoing education, fun, enjoyment of the arts, transcendence, and making significant contributions that help others. Tyrants often ignore or diminish the value of these genuine alternatives to growth, expansion, and conquest. Pursue genuine progress, and don't be seduced by the idea that growth represents progress. Reject the insatiable tyranny of more consuming. We are all connected. We all rely on others—locally and globally—for needed resources such as food, water, health care, energy, labor, land, and education. The tyrant depends on the oppressed. Tyranny is childish. Tyrants lack self-control, sound judgment, refined character, respect, wisdom, and transcendent purpose. Tyranny is a tragically unleashed version of a child's selfish tantrum.


Many of Mao Tse Tung's policies and socio-political programs such as the Great Leap Forward and the Cultural Revolution are blamed by critics for causing severe damage to the culture, society, economy, and foreign relations of China, as well as an estimated 40 million or more lost lives.
Tyrants lack the wisdom of: understanding the intrinsic similarities we all share as human beings, interconnections, relatedness, compassion, respect, history, symmetry, inquiry, humility, and responsibility. Adults don't tolerate tantrums, there is no reason to tolerate tyranny. Oppression constrains the tyrant. Sustaining oppression requires a narrow worldview based on false beliefs. When these false beliefs are dismissed and corrected, we gain a more accurate understanding of our world and we all benefit. Expose the lie and strengthen the humanitarian based community.  
 
 
Their glory is short lived, their disgrace lasts forever. It won't be long before the tide turns against the tyrant. Might does not make right. Quite the opposite is true; whenevidence is available then influence alone can make the point and change behavior without having to rely on coercion. If your views are correct, they do not need an aggressive defense; if they are incorrect they do not deserve it. If Pepsi really was better than Coke, there would be no need to spend $ Billions on advertisements claiming it is better. If President Richard Nixon believed he was the better candidate, then why was the Watergate break-in necessary? If Catholic priests did not molest children, then the Vatican would not have written a secret document, the Crimen sollicitationis, directing the use of pontifical secrecy to cover up the cases. Beginning in 1950, Senator Joseph McCarthy became noted for making unsubstantiated claims that there were large numbers of Communists and Soviet spies and sympathizers inside the United States government. It is difficult to estimate the number of victims of his false accusations. The number imprisoned is in the hundreds, and some ten or twelve thousand lost their jobs. Ultimately, his tactics led to his being discredited and censured by the United States Senate.
 
 
Because their views go unchallenged, powerful self-centered people often get it very wrong. If the tyrant really does have a better idea, let that idea gain acceptance on its own merits. Good ideas speak for themselves. The need to use force is evidence of a weak idea.Humor provides a new perspective. Political Satire, Political Cartoons, Doonesbury, Dilbert, the Daily Show, and Saturday Night Live all work to balance power by making fun of it. The nursery rhyme “Rock-a-by Baby” may have been a surreptitious way of singing dissent with the English civil war. Be very careful when using humor to disarm power. Respond in a friendly but disarming way that makes light of the tyrant's abusive tactics. Highlight the fallacies in the tyrant's goals and tactics, but carefully avoid humiliating the tyrant.The best leaders are the best servants.
 
 
==Leaders Care about People==
 
 
Leadership is not about controlling people; it's about caring for people and being a useful resource for people. The best leaders help people work together and do their best to achieve an important goal. Their actions focus on accomplishing as a team much more than any one person could accomplish alone. Leadership is about helping people attain the goal, not about aggrandizing the leader. Tyrants don't serve and servants don't control. Tyrants are not leaders, and any contrary myths need to be exposed as false. Scapegoats are chosen as convenient proxies. They are easy targets chosen to accept blame, displaceresponsibility for problems from where it truly belongs, and to distract attention from the actual problems. Tyrants identify scapegoats to distract attention from their own misdeeds. The scapegoat is not the problem, don't be distracted, look elsewhere for the real cause. Analyze cause and effect more carefully, avoid the fallacy of disproportionate responsibility, determine more accurately where responsibly actually belongs. Draw attention away from the scapegoat and toward the real problem.Courage can overcome fear. The tyrant uses fear to keep us from seeing alternatives. In the face of his intimidation we typically freeze, flee, become anger locked, or submit to his demands. But if we can focus, summon our courage, relax, comprehend the situation, and develop alternatives, we can create options for moving forward constructively. On December 1, 1955, Rosa Parks  became famous for refusing to obey bus driver  James Blake's order that she give up her seat. This action of civil disobedience started the Montgomery Bus Boycott, which is one of the largest movements against racial segregation. In addition, this launched Martin Luther King, Jr., who was involved with the boycott, to a prominent position among his people and in the civil rights movement. She has had a lasting legacy worldwide.During the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989  an unarmed man stood in the center of the street, halting the tanks' progress. He reportedly asked, “Why are you here? You have caused nothing but misery.” As the tank driver attempted to go around him, the “tank man” moved into the tank's path. He continued to stand defiantly in front of the tanks for some time, then climbed up onto the turret of the lead tank to speak to the soldiers inside. After returning to his position blocking the tanks, the man was pulled aside by onlookers who perhaps feared he would be shot or run over. Time Magazine dubbed him “The Unknown Rebel” and later named him one of the 100 most influential people of the 20th century. Tyrants are often unprepared for truly courageous and well-planned responses. Human needs are simple and largely non-material. Although autonomy is a human need, steak for dinner is not. In choosing to endure tyrant's abuse you may be choosing to buy a steak dinner at the cost of your autonomy. This is usually a bad deal. Choose simplicity over oppression.There are always alternatives. Reject the obvious alternatives, create new options, and find another way. Innovation creates opportunities. Dialogue creates solutions that other forms of communicationjealously hide. If you can't think of alternatives and feel there is no way out then talk to more people and generate more ideas.  No one is powerless.  We each have our own sources of power. The boss depends on the secretary, the doctor depends on nurses and patients, and the manager depends on the workers. Mahatma Gandhi  was the skinny little brown man who summoned the power to free India from British colonial rule. Find your source of strength and apply it to the problem at hand. Don't play the victim, you always have choices. Speak up and speak out about what you want and expect from the relationship. End the trespassing and assert your right to dignity, respect, and freedom. Describe the actual, unfair, and unwanted asymmetry of the relationship, how it makes you feel, why it is unfair, and then describe the fair and symmetrical relationship you expect. Say what you mean, but don't be mean. Don't insult, humiliate, or threaten the control freak. Confront the control freak, and plan how to expose and disarm the tyrant.Helplessness can be learned and unlearned. Oppression teaches you to become passive and stop trying to help yourself. But you can reassess your options and decide to take action to end the oppression.Everyone, even the tyrant, is vulnerable. Study the tyrant to find out his weaknesses. Balance the power. Apply your strength where he is most weak. Calmly describe how natural forces resisting the tyrant will eventually defeat his efforts.It is possible to speak truth to power. Don't be distracted or intimidated by the tyrant's positional power, reputation, physical appearance; wincing, bellowing, or rolling eyes; physical surroundings, or other attempts to emphasize a disparity in power and importance. Do not tolerate ego rants. Do your homework, get the facts right, and present your case clearly, calmly, and persuasively. You can challenge an authority by respectfully asking: “How do you know?”, “Why do you say what you say?”, “What is theevidence to support your position?”, and “Who disagrees with you?”Rana Husseini  spoke truth to power and exposed the shame of Jordan when she unveiled the common but unspoken crime of honor killings  there. Honor killings refer to the murder by family members of a woman who is raped or is said to have participated in illicit sexual activity. The mere perception that a woman has behaved in a way that is considered as dishonoring her family is sufficient to trigger an attack on her life. Across the globe, women who are beaten, brutalized, and raped can expect police, prosecutors, and judges to humiliate victims, fail to investigate cases, and dismiss charges. Honor killings accounted for one-third of the murders of women in Jordan in 1999. She wrote a series of reports on the killings and launched a campaign to stop them. As a result, she has been threatened and accused of being anti-Islam, antifamily, and anti-Jordan. Yet, Queen Noor  took up the cause, and later, the newly ascended King Hassan cited the need for protection of women in his opening address to parliament. The conspiracy of silence has been forever broken thanks to this courageous young journalist who risks her life in the firmbelief that exposing the truth about honor killings and other forms of violence against women is the first step to stopping them.The tools of influence are symmetrical. The techniques the powerful use to influence the oppressed can also be adapted by the oppressed to influence the powerful.Extremists discount, dismiss, distort, dispute, or deflect important evidence. But facts are stubborn. As the facts become more widely known and understood, the unreasonableness of the tyrant's position becomes more clear to more people. His support eventually dwindles as more people recognize the emperor has no clothes. There is tremendous power in alliances.  None of us are as smart or powerful as all of us. As the scope of the tyrant's impact increases, as more people suffer from his abuse, the more people there are to pool their resources and energy in overcoming his grip. Find the people who are suffering from the tyrant's grip, recognize the common problem you are facing, and find a way to band together and effect positive change. India's independence movement, labor unions, the women's suffrage movement, the civil rights movement, and the anti-apartheid cause all provide prominent examples of oppressed people working together to overcome powerful forces, abuse, and tyranny.You can choose your battles. You can decide when to ignore, yield to, appease, or accommodate the control-freak's requests. You can also decide when to confront the unreasonable behavior and insist on change. Keep an effective strategy in mind to help you choose your battles carefully. With careful preparation, you can always walk away.Government exists only to serve and benefit the governed. The United Nation's Universal Declaration of Human Rights  clearly states: “The will of the people shall be the basis of the authority of government; this will shall be expressed in periodic and genuine elections which shall be by universal and equal suffrage and shall be held by secret vote or by equivalent free voting procedures”. Tyrants often forget this and erroneously believe the purpose of government is to benefit only themselves. Insist on a government that represents and serves the people.Privilege and power are distinct from talent. A rich, powerful person may not be very bright while a poor person might be very bright, hard working, creative, and talented. Don't be mislead by image, boasting, intimidation, pedigree, and posturing. Demonstrate leadership through hard work, not privilege. Apply your talents regardless of your present social position. Seek stature, not status. There are paths of progress other than growth.  Flowers develop by unfolding their potential, not by becoming the biggest flower.  Bigger is not always better. There are important alternatives, including: peace of mind, integrity, giving and gaining the respect of others, tranquility, clean air, clean water, the beauty of nature, a healthy environment to enjoy now and sustain for the future, family, friendships,community, safety, stability, trust, leisure time, meaningful work, authentic experiences, reciprocity, good health, reduced stress, ongoing education, fun, enjoyment of the arts, transcendence, and making significant contributions that help others. Tyrants often ignore or diminish the value of these genuine alternatives to growth, expansion, and conquest. Challenge the assumptions that growth is good and inevitable. Pursue genuine progress, and don't be seduced by the idea that growth represents progress. Reject the insatiable tyranny of more.We are all connected. We all rely on others—locally and globally—for needed resources such as food, water, health care, energy, labor, land, and education. The tyrant depends on the oppressed.Tyranny is childish. Tyrants lack self-control, sound judgment, refined character, respect, wisdom, and transcendent purpose. Tyranny is a tragically unleashed version of a child's selfish tantrum. It is ineffective; tyranny has a clear history of tragedy and failure. In retrospect it often looks preposterous. We can learn to recognize it, call attention to it, act as responsible grownups, and not tolerate it. Maturity is about using wisdom to achieve constructive results. [b]Tyrants lack the wisdom of: understanding the intrinsic similarities we all share, interconnections, relatedness, compassion, respect, accurate history, symmetry, inquiry,humility, and responsibility. Adults don't tolerate tantrums, there is no reason to tolerate tyranny.[/b]Oppression constrains the tyrant. Sustaining oppression requires a narrow worldview based on falsebeliefs. The false belief that women are not smart enough to vote, the false belief that slaves are subhuman, the false belief that Jews are to blame for the problems of Nazi Germany, and the false belief that the poor are stupid were each essential to maintaining the power of the tyrant and sustaining the oppression. When these false beliefs are dismissed and corrected, we gain a more accurate understanding of our world and we all benefit. Expose the lie and strengthen the community.Sunlight is the best disinfectant. The most credible and respected organizations operate in an open atmosphere. Their operations and decisions are transparent and can be easily examined by interested people inside and outside the organization. Organizations that are well run and are responsible to the public not only accept criticism and suggestions, but embrace them. If questions from constituents, the public, or the media make leaders or other responsible parties become uncomfortable, evasive, or disingenuous, the questions are usually valid and the answers are not. People who feel uncomfortable under the bright light of scrutiny and criticism often have something to hide. Shine the light on tyranny to purify it.Tyrants are lonely, afraid, insecure, and human. They deserve our compassion, even as we withhold our obedience and submission. The many causes of tyranny, described at the beginning of this page, show that tyrants are often driven by deficiencies, inadequacy, loneliness, or fear. Tyrants often see themselves as the victim. Adolf Hitler titled his autobiography “Mein Kampf”, “My Struggle”. Perhaps if they can connect in authentic relationships with caring people, their pain can be soothed, and their behaviors can improve. Even the nastiest tyrants are only human. Understand the similarities you share with them. Connect with them on a human level. Pity the poor tyrant. Have you hugged a tyrant today?


The most credible and respected organizations operate in an open and transparent atmosphere. Their operations and decisions are transparent and can be easily examined by interested people inside and outside the organization. Organizations that are well run and are responsible to the public not only accept criticism and suggestions, but embrace them. If questions from constituents, the public, or the media make leaders or other responsible parties become uncomfortable, evasive, or disingenuous, the questions are usually valid and the answers are not. People who feel uncomfortable under the bright light of scrutiny and criticism often have something to hide. Shine the light on tyranny to purify it.<ref name="tyranny" />


==Overcoming Tyrants==
==Overcoming Tyrants==
* Everyone experiences fear, including fear of humiliation.
* Courage can overcome fear.
* We are responsible for our own choices.
* We all have sources of power we can draw on.
* Authentic self-confidence increases our power.
* Inquiry, evidence, and respectful debate are powerful tools for uncovering what is.
* Alliances can increase our power.
* We each have our own important stories to tell.
* Tyrants use the trappings of power to enhance their image.
* Tyrants suppress and manipulate opponents by exploiting their fears.
* We often respond to image before we respond to substance.
* Image is not substance.
* You can speak truth to power.
* Tyrants respond differently to compassion than they do to threats, dominance, or humiliation.
* All things must pass; even tyranny is impermanent.


Everyone experiences fear, including fear of humiliation.
Courage can overcome fear.
We are responsible for our own choices.
We all have sources of power we can draw on.
Authentic self-confidence increases our power.
Inquiry, evidence, and argument are powerful tools for uncovering what is.
Alliances can increase our power.
We each have our own important stories to tell.
Tyrants use the trappings of power to enhance their image.
Tyrants suppress and manipulate opponents by exploiting their fears.
We often respond to image before we respond to substance.
Image is not substance.
You can speak truth to power.
Tyrants respond differently to compassion than they do to threats, dominance, or humiliation.
All things must pass; even tyranny is impermanent.
==Quotations==
==Quotations==
“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men.” ~  Lord Acton


* “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men.” ~  Lord Acton


“He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself.” ~ Philip Massinger
* “He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself.” ~ Philip Massinger


* “Humanity is not divisive, but inclusive.” ~ Neriah Lothamer


“Humanity is not divisive, but inclusive.” ~ Neriah Lothamer
* “No one can take advantage of you without your permission.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt 


* “We must all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately.” ~ Benjamin Franklin


“No one can take advantage of you without your permission.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt 
* “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
 
 
“We must all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
 
 
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
 
 
 
“Never feel overwhelmed when you are overwhelmed with evidence of injustice.” ~ Ralph Nader


* “Never feel overwhelmed when you are overwhelmed with evidence of injustice.” ~ Ralph Nader


==References==
==References==
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==See Also==
==See Also==


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Our planet is evolving into a coalescence of collective race fields which create Group Consciousness and this is not a choice, it is a fact during the Ascension Cycle. This means we will need to become aware of what Group Consciousness means and how it impacts us in our day to day life, as well as every relationship we have on this planet.

In any type of organization or Group Consciousness it is extremely challenging to navigate in uncleared individual and group Negative Ego behaviors and determine what behaviors define as Leadership Vs. Tyranny. Negative Ego behaviors are usually entwined with low ethical conduct which damages building trust between people in order to communicate transparently and honestly about a variety of topics. In order to evolve and learn how to build basic Group Consciousness communication skills we each must develop commitment to hold accountability to our personal circumstances and the GSF Behaviors that each of us choose to demonstrate every day.

We have been confused to discern the qualities of Leadership and authoritative influence over others as defined by egocentric and alpha type of behaviors which lead to control orientation and tyrannical oppression. We all want to stay clear of feeding the tyrant as a leader or authority.When we are clearer to identify control-oriented authority and tyrannical authority based on the negative ego profiles shared here, we are more equipped to discern proper authority patterns when involved with any kind of leadership scenario. Wherever there is an organization or group, there will be some kind of stewardship or responsibility of authority to serve that organization. In the highest expression, we want to learn how to self-lead in a healthy and balanced way through the development of strong moral character and trustworthy traits, modeled through the community that we may observe or participate with. This way by learning self-mastery or leadership skills, one is building confidence in free thinking and free expression while embodying ethical conduct necessary to be spiritually sovereign. Otherwise we are mind controlled puppets playing out repeated archetypes of drama and like a hamster on a wheel, running in circles of karmic looping.I hope this is helpful now and in the future as we develop this skill of discerning trustworthiness in ourselves and others, as well as the prevention of feeding, rewarding and giving authoritative power in any way to narcissistic and psychopathic behavior.

This information is to help better discern the qualities of Leadership Vs. Tyranny in Group Consciousness or in any type or organizational structure. [1]

Discerning Tyrants and Controllers

Tyranny is about the abuse of power over others through a variety of methods; deception, lying, manipulation,Mind Control, bullying and intimidation. Whether it's a pushy person, a control freak, a bully, or an outright tyrant, the problem is the same: their goals are always more important than yours. A difficult, pushy person has gone too far again. They are bossing you around, acting selfish and self-important, threatening you, making demands, barking orders, and abusing their power. Control freaks, imperative people, and tyrants exercise power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive manner. They are oppressive, harsh, arbitrary people who make life difficult for too many of us. They are annoying, inconsiderate, and demeaning. What are they thinking? How can we respond constructively?

Caution: Control-oriented people as described here expect to control the people and events around them. Exposing or challenging their tactics could provoke their anger and result in severe and possibly dangerous retaliation. Expect to be a target of their backlash. Protect yourself and others who could become targets before challenging a control-oriented person.

Defining Tyrants and Tyranny

1. Absolute rule 2. Abusing power 3. Selfish power 4. Unmitigated power 5. Unrestrained exercise of power; abuse of authority.

Difficult people, control freaks, imperative people, and bullies push us around during our day-to-day encounters. They go out of their way to turn every encounter into a dominance contest and often insist on getting the last word. They insist you do it their way, dominating so many trivial issues as well as the more important ones. Going out to dinner with a control freak can easily become an ordeal. Choosing the restaurant, deciding where to sit, what to order, what fork to use, how much to tip, how long to stay, who pays, how to pay, and what to do next all has to be done their way. Tyrants, dictators, despots, autocrats, authoritarians, imperialists, fascists, Czars, Nazis, and monarchs practice their tyranny, totalitarianism, absolute rule, and domination on a larger and more destructive scale.Tyranny leads to oppression, the sustained humiliation of a group of people.

The oppressed people are suppressed, limited, or controlled by unjust use of force or abuse of authority.

Negative Ego Behavior of Tyrants

Tyranny can creep into our thoughts as Negative Ego behavior to a greater or lesser degree. Here are some categories, arranged in increasing degrees of dominance and disregard for others.[1]

Cause/Deficiency Behavior
Low Self-esteem Fragile high self esteem drives these people to act superior to disguise their inferior feelings. Controlling others is one manifestation of their need to act superior.
Healthy Self-esteem This is the desired condition. True leaders act from healthy high esteem.
Egotism Egotists are self-centered. They have been seduced by their first-person viewpoint. It's all about them; they are motivated only by their own self-interests. They lack empathy for others. They are controlling because only their needs matter.
Narcissism Narcissists have a grandiose sense of self-importance. They exaggerate their achievements and expect to be recognized as superior, even when their accomplishments are ordinary. They fantasize attaining unlimited success or power. They believe they are special and require excessive admiration. They lack empathy and exploit others to achieve their own ends. They often envy others or believe others envy them. They are controlling because only they matter.
Psychopath Psychopaths are anti-social. They totally disregard the rights of others. They feel little or no remorse for the harm they cause others. They blame the victim and lack empathy. They are deceitful, aggressive, tough minded, glib, superficial, exploitative, irresponsible, and impulsive. Yet they may display a superficial charm. They are controlling because others don't matter.

Leaders Vs. Tyrants

Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership.

Leaders Tyrants
Visionary; holds a clear, compelling, well thought-out, and constructive vision for the future. Focused while maintaining broad perspective. Visionary, but fixated on a narrow view. Narrowly focused.
Determined; they persistently pursue their goal and are undaunted by obstacles and setbacks. Relentless, tenacious, unyielding, rigid, close-minded, dogmatic, and stubborn.
Influential; communicates passionately to engage people. Influential, charismatic, captivating, engaging.
Passionate; remains committed and focused on the goal with heart and soul. Obsessed; the goal is all that matters. It must be achieved at all costs.
Increase trust. Followers are intrinsically motivated and provide enduring support. Increase fear. Followers are extrinsically motivated and support ends when the coercion ends. Often resentment endures.
Enthusiastic. Zealot.
Connected with others. Separate from others. Isolated, alone and apart.
Empathy for others. Humble. Apathy for others. Arrogant.
Healthy self-esteem. Accurate and realistic self-appraisal. Solicits and accepts feedback and criticism. Low, or fragile-high self-esteem. Egotism, narcissism, or even psychopathic. Inaccurate and Unrealistic self-appraisal. Avoids and rejects criticism and all but overwhelmingly positive feedback.
Primarily concerned for the cause, the organization, and the people being lead. Concerned only for the self.
Broadly and ethically principled. Fair and generous. Unprincipled or narrowly principled. Selfish.
Responsible. Irresponsible.
Internal Locus of Control. External Locus of Control.
Consistent, reliable, logical, authentic, well adjusted, and emotionally stable. Volatile, whacky, irritable.
Realistic. Optimistic.
Listens and dialogues. Monologs, lectures, preaches and engages in tirades.
Respects reciprocity and symmetry. Strongly asymmetrical.
Open, communicative. Secretive.
Concerned with substance. Concerned with image.
Evidence based. Dominance based.
Considerate Invasive, intrusive, and obnoxious.
High, relevant, consistent, and attainable performance standards. Perfectionist, demanding, inconsistent.
Provides helpful and balanced feedback. Critical and demanding.
Understands boundaries and respects sexual energy Abuses power through sexual control

Healthy Self Control

It is certainly important for us to develop self control and awareness of ourselves and have discipline over our impulses in many aspects of our lives. Self-control is an important attribute of Spiritual Maturity, and an essential component of interconnection and feeling empathy for humanity and the planet. Achieving a healthy balance of self discipline and self control is an essential element of personal responsibility and accountability. Loss of self control leads to anxiety, unhappiness, anger, resentment, stress, feeling helpless, and even depression. Abdicating one's personal power over self control, by acting powerless, and playing the Victim-Victimizer role playing, is irresponsible and self destructive. But keep in mind that our personal and spiritual freedom ends where other's begins. One must honor human beings and life force in order to achieve a healthy balance with self discipline and control with considering the rights and needs of others and having respect for others.[1]

Discern Competence

Leadership competence is successfully meeting an optimum challenge in a group environment which is similar to the capacity of a basic human need as, exerting healthy personal self control and self discipline in one's life. These are requirements of self mastery before leadership competence in any group environment is possible. By paying attention to consistent and demonstrated behaviors in leadership, and having awareness of Negative Ego, Tyrant behaviors, Pain Body, Lack of Empathy and other Archontic Deception Behaviors, one can develop much more accurate assessment of conditions, therefore improved discernment.

To help with a benchmark in making one's own personal and private assessment of the competency of the leadership of a Group Consciousness, spiritual community or other project group, and the values which are espoused, one applies “trust building” inquiries toward the leadership and the group’s mission or project statement. This is a measurement of energetic and verbal cohesion, does the group behave in alignment to the words and values which are communicated?

Is there a representation of competence and ability with the leadership role and is it demonstrated in ways that are competent and trustworthy? Can you place yourself in the leadership position? What human behaviors are required to respect and honor the rights of all people? See Law of One.

Reducing Anxiety

What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs that are out of balance and potentially destructive.

The mistaken belief that what I can control fully, cannot hurt me drives the Negative Ego behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by their internal fear that they will lose control, or at least the needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every perceived threat, whether real or imagined. They lose track of what they can change and what they cannot change. They choose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety by controlling and manipulating others around them.

The Consumptive Modeling of energy vampirism that exerts control over others and manipulating scenarios is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, feeling powerless. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to their needs, belief systems, or whatever else.

Perfectionism

An obsession with perfectionism and when driven by the fear of failure may also result in manipulating and controlling behavior. Perhaps the control freak just cares more than you do about the goal. They may see the goal as much more important than the human relationship, and they don't have the skill or see how they can preserve both. The control freak is deathly afraid of personal failure, which means to them a lack of self worth, thus, they do not trust anyone else to get it right. If one is in a job with a micromanaging boss it may be helpful to try to establish a better working relationship, through compassionate feelings of empathy and concern. While demonstrating one's interest, concern, dedication, knowledge, and competency; keep the boss informed, and request more autonomy in the work or project. Address any fears, apply effort to understand the pressures they may face from their point of view, and they may allow you the space you need to contribute your best.

Impatience

Often impatient people usurp control in an attempt to speed events along and get more done. Many times taking the shortcut does not help anyone to get better results any quicker. Patience is a one of the Spirits of Christ and is developed to learn better self control and discipline in one's mental focus. Impatience creates self entitlement, while Patience creates the inner discipline to earn Virtues upon developing one's own skill and competency. This quick-fix rarely works and is hidden behind many layers of facade which is built upon a house of cards ready to fall.

Low Self-Esteem

The biggest secret of a Tyrant is that I am not as good as I make myself to appear to be to the public. My public image has to be controlled at all cost and a image is projected to be what the public wants rather than the truth. Because the Tyrant feels inferior, the Tyrant generates ego defenses or ego pathology to act superior. With low self esteem the only opinion I have of myself is the opinion that others have of me. How I feel depends entirely on what others think of me and assign as a value. I depend desperately on other people's approval to establish and maintain my feelings of self-worth. Thus, the Tyrant may control or even humiliate others first in so that the others do not humiliate them. These people governed by Negative Ego and ruled by the Pain Body do not understand that their self-worth and dignity is intrinsic and is not provided by others. Also, tyrants evaluate their stature to be achieved on an absolute scale, and is not evaluated in comparison to others.

First Person-Viewpoint

We all view the world from our unique first-person viewpoint and perspective. But if other people's viewpoints cannot be comprehended, or there is a Lack of Empathy towards others, the viewpoint or ideology becomes disconnected, uncaring, unchecked, fixated, obsessed and destructive. This is the root of Negative Ego. The belief (or fear) that “no one can get the job done as well as I can” or “if you want it done right, do it yourself” drives many control freaks to interfere, bosses to micro-manage, and poor leaders to manipulate or overreach. Along with their first-person viewpoint, and inability to feel compassion for others position, their fear of failure drives them to control every aspect of their world as they attempt to ensure success and reduce their anxiety. In any case the control freak is preserving their own selfish interests at the expense of other's. Children are born believing they are at the center of the universe; tyrants never outgrow this belief.

Disconnected and Unaware

Some tyrants and control freaks are enmeshed in the Negative Ego and Pain Body and in most cases just do not know any better and are unaware of more positive and effective approaches to achieving goals. Perhaps self destructive habits, addictive tendencies and abuse is all they have ever known. Many tyrants have been conditioned to learn the only approach they ever witnessed in dealing with other people is to abuse and control them. Perhaps one can have compassion for their Negative Ego ignorance and help them learn better approaches to building relationships based on trust and character building.

Responding to Tyrants

We can choose how we respond to tyrants. There are alternatives to oppression.Overcome our Fear:Tyrants exploit our primal fears and we typically cower from them. We are seduced by their influence and succumb to their threats as we are easily blinded by fear, anxiety, shame, hate, or guilt. We yield to their tantrums. Fear can easily lead to primal thinking, tunnel vision, and panic. But courage can overcome our fears and with careful and creative planning we can confront the tyrant.

Disengage: If you don't like it, change it. If you can't change it, leave. Acknowledge the oppression, understand the tyrant, consider your alternatives, and choose your battles carefully. Decide what you choose to change and what you choose to avoid. If this is just not a situation where you have the strength, interest, resources, or will to change now, you may decide to disengage and live to fight another day. If your boss is a tyrant arrange for a reassignment or leave the organization.

Tower, Don't Cower: Although the typical reaction is to cower in response to the tyrant's threats, there is a more elevated and enlightened viewpoint. If we recognize the many deceptions and fallacies tyrants rely on, and recognize tyrants as the lonely and childish school-yard bullies they are, then we can avoid being bullied and controlled by them. Spoiled brats do not deserve the attention they demand. Uncover, dispel, and shatter the myth . This viewpoint recognizes these powerful truths: Dignity is intrinsic to every human. It does not have to be earned, it cannot be granted, and it cannot be taken away. The tyrant can neither strip you of your dignity nor can he provide you with dignity. We all share a long list of intrinsic similarities. You remain a worthy human being regardless of what the tyrant does. It is your own choice, your own asset, do not squander it. The oppressed are no less worthy than the powerful.

The tyrant works to control or eliminate something or someone he sees as the obstacle to his goals. He has named the evil other, he hates it, and it must be destroyed. But choosing to hate is an ineffective shortcut that avoids the hard work of analyzing the problem in depth. Hating attributes blame incorrectly; it misallocates right and wrong. To defuse the hate, assess the situation from another perspective, analyze the problem in more depth, identify the real causes, eliminate the errors in thinking, and move forward with an effective solution. The best leaders are the best servants.

Leaders Care about People

Leadership is not about controlling people; it's about caring for people and being a useful resource for people. The best leaders help people work together and do their best to achieve an important goal. Their actions focus on accomplishing as a team much more than any one person could accomplish alone. Leadership is about helping people attain the goal, not about aggrandizing the leader. Tyrants don't serve and servants don't control.

Scapegoating

Tyrants are not leaders, and any contrary myths need to be exposed as false. Scapegoats are chosen as convenient proxies. They are easy targets chosen to accept blame, displace responsibility for problems from where it truly belongs, and to distract attention from the actual problems. Tyrants identify scapegoats to distract attention from their own misdeeds. The scapegoat is not the problem, don't be distracted, look elsewhere for the real cause. Analyze cause and effect more carefully, avoid the fallacy of disproportionate responsibility, determine more accurately where responsibly actually belongs. Draw attention away from the scapegoat and toward the real problem. Courage can overcome fear. The tyrant uses fear to keep us from seeing alternatives. In the face of his intimidation we typically freeze, flee, become anger locked, or submit to his demands. But if we can focus, summon our courage, relax, comprehend the situation, and develop alternatives, we can create options for moving forward constructively.

Oppression teaches you to become passive, powerless and to stop trying to help yourself. But you can reassess your options and decide to take action to end the oppression. Everyone, even the tyrant, is vulnerable. Study the tyrant to find out his weaknesses. Balance the power. Apply your strength where he is most weak. Calmly describe how natural forces resisting the tyrant will eventually defeat his efforts.It is possible to speak truth to power. Don't be distracted or intimidated by the tyrant's positional power, reputation, physical appearance; wincing, bellowing, or rolling eyes; physical surroundings, or other attempts to emphasize a disparity in power and importance. Do not tolerate Negative Ego rants. Do your homework, get the facts right, and present your case clearly, calmly, and persuasively. One can challenge an authority by respectfully asking: “How do you know?”, “Why do you say what you say?”, “What is the evidence to support your position?”, and “Who disagrees with you?”

Transparency and Open Source

There are important alternatives, including: peace of mind, integrity, giving and gaining the respect of others, tranquility, clean air, clean water, the beauty of nature, a healthy environment to enjoy now and sustain for the future, family, friendships,community, safety, stability, trust, leisure time, meaningful work, authentic experiences, reciprocity, good health, reduced stress, ongoing education, fun, enjoyment of the arts, transcendence, and making significant contributions that help others. Tyrants often ignore or diminish the value of these genuine alternatives to growth, expansion, and conquest. Pursue genuine progress, and don't be seduced by the idea that growth represents progress. Reject the insatiable tyranny of more consuming. We are all connected. We all rely on others—locally and globally—for needed resources such as food, water, health care, energy, labor, land, and education. The tyrant depends on the oppressed. Tyranny is childish. Tyrants lack self-control, sound judgment, refined character, respect, wisdom, and transcendent purpose. Tyranny is a tragically unleashed version of a child's selfish tantrum.

Tyrants lack the wisdom of: understanding the intrinsic similarities we all share as human beings, interconnections, relatedness, compassion, respect, history, symmetry, inquiry, humility, and responsibility. Adults don't tolerate tantrums, there is no reason to tolerate tyranny. Oppression constrains the tyrant. Sustaining oppression requires a narrow worldview based on false beliefs. When these false beliefs are dismissed and corrected, we gain a more accurate understanding of our world and we all benefit. Expose the lie and strengthen the humanitarian based community.

The most credible and respected organizations operate in an open and transparent atmosphere. Their operations and decisions are transparent and can be easily examined by interested people inside and outside the organization. Organizations that are well run and are responsible to the public not only accept criticism and suggestions, but embrace them. If questions from constituents, the public, or the media make leaders or other responsible parties become uncomfortable, evasive, or disingenuous, the questions are usually valid and the answers are not. People who feel uncomfortable under the bright light of scrutiny and criticism often have something to hide. Shine the light on tyranny to purify it.[1]

Overcoming Tyrants

  • Everyone experiences fear, including fear of humiliation.
  • Courage can overcome fear.
  • We are responsible for our own choices.
  • We all have sources of power we can draw on.
  • Authentic self-confidence increases our power.
  • Inquiry, evidence, and respectful debate are powerful tools for uncovering what is.
  • Alliances can increase our power.
  • We each have our own important stories to tell.
  • Tyrants use the trappings of power to enhance their image.
  • Tyrants suppress and manipulate opponents by exploiting their fears.
  • We often respond to image before we respond to substance.
  • Image is not substance.
  • You can speak truth to power.
  • Tyrants respond differently to compassion than they do to threats, dominance, or humiliation.
  • All things must pass; even tyranny is impermanent.

Quotations

  • “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men.” ~ Lord Acton
  • “He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself.” ~ Philip Massinger
  • “Humanity is not divisive, but inclusive.” ~ Neriah Lothamer
  • “No one can take advantage of you without your permission.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
  • “We must all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
  • “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
  • “Never feel overwhelmed when you are overwhelmed with evidence of injustice.” ~ Ralph Nader

References

See Also

Megalomaniac

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