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When tempers flare and we feel an automatic response of pain and fear to an immediate circumstance, here are 5 Steps to immediately shift your emotional reaction. | When tempers flare and we feel an automatic response of pain and fear to an immediate circumstance, here are 5 Steps to immediately shift your emotional reaction. | ||
Choose to respond and not react. Identify the emotional trigger and apply discipline to not allow this trigger to impact you or lose control of yourself. Dismantle that emotional trigger from reactive and automatic behaviors. Stay Calm.No matter how “bad” the external situation looks, or what you may believe is an injustice, getting emotionally out of control is never positive for you or for anyone involved. * Patience: Pause, step back, take a breath. If emotionally heated remove yourself from the circumstance briefly to get control over yourself. <ref> | Choose to respond and not react. Identify the emotional trigger and apply discipline to not allow this trigger to impact you or lose control of yourself. Dismantle that emotional trigger from reactive and automatic behaviors. Stay Calm.No matter how “bad” the external situation looks, or what you may believe is an injustice, getting emotionally out of control is never positive for you or for anyone involved. * Patience: Pause, step back, take a breath. If emotionally heated remove yourself from the circumstance briefly to get control over yourself. <ref>God's Little Handbook for Humans by Bob Bloom</ref> | ||
* Surrender to the process: “There is a process happening that I may not entirely understand. I may not know the answer right now, but that is okay. I will get myself out of the way as to not escalate the negativity. “ | * Surrender to the process: “There is a process happening that I may not entirely understand. I may not know the answer right now, but that is okay. I will get myself out of the way as to not escalate the negativity. “ | ||