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When tempers flare and we feel an automatic response of pain and fear to an immediate circumstance, here are 5 Steps to immediately shift your emotional reaction. | When tempers flare and we feel an automatic response of pain and fear to an immediate circumstance, here are 5 Steps to immediately shift your emotional reaction. | ||
Choose to respond and not react. Identify the emotional trigger and apply discipline to not allow this trigger to impact you or lose control of yourself. Dismantle that emotional trigger from reactive and automatic behaviors. Stay Calm.No matter how “bad” the external situation looks, or what you may believe is an injustice, getting emotionally out of control is never positive for you or for anyone involved. * Patience: Pause, step back, take a breath. If emotionally heated remove yourself from the circumstance briefly to get control over yourself. | Choose to respond and not react. Identify the emotional trigger and apply discipline to not allow this trigger to impact you or lose control of yourself. Dismantle that emotional trigger from reactive and automatic behaviors. Stay Calm.No matter how “bad” the external situation looks, or what you may believe is an injustice, getting emotionally out of control is never positive for you or for anyone involved. | ||
* Patience: Pause, step back, take a breath. If emotionally heated remove yourself from the circumstance briefly to get control over yourself. | |||
* Surrender to the process: “There is a process happening that I may not entirely understand. I may not know the answer right now, but that is okay. I will get myself out of the way as to not escalate the negativity. “ | * Surrender to the process: “There is a process happening that I may not entirely understand. I may not know the answer right now, but that is okay. I will get myself out of the way as to not escalate the negativity. “ | ||
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* Acceptance: “I may not like this situation and I accept that I do not like it. I am choosing peace because I trust something larger is at work in this situation. “ | * Acceptance: “I may not like this situation and I accept that I do not like it. I am choosing peace because I trust something larger is at work in this situation. “ | ||
* Forgiveness: When you can - calmly tell the story, feel your feelings, and allow the situation to be accepted and forgiven for what it is right now. Revalue the situation and do not allow it to take your personal strength and power away. When we get very upset or angry, and act it out, we drain valuable energies and resources from our vital forces. Affirm -I can only change how I respond internally to external things and I accept the things that I cannot change. | * Forgiveness: When you can - calmly tell the story, feel your feelings, and allow the situation to be accepted and forgiven for what it is right now. Revalue the situation and do not allow it to take your personal strength and power away. When we get very upset or angry, and act it out, we drain valuable energies and resources from our vital forces. Affirm -I can only change how I respond internally to external things and I accept the things that I cannot change. <ref>God's Little Handbook for Humans by Bob Bloom</ref> | ||
* Be Here Now ! Be Here Now! Be Here Now! Be present in the moment and apply neutrality as the Observer. Affirm: I am the Power, Master and Cause of my Emotions.<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/quick-tools/1999-emotional-release-quick Emotional release]</ref> | * Be Here Now ! Be Here Now! Be Here Now! Be present in the moment and apply neutrality as the Observer. Affirm: I am the Power, Master and Cause of my Emotions.<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/quick-tools/1999-emotional-release-quick Emotional release]</ref> | ||