Unconscious Impulses

Many times what we fear in others is the hidden unconscious behaviour that we have not cleared from within our deepest selves. Until we are willing to look at hidden fears we can easily project or transfer our fears onto other people especially with our unconscious impulses or ego outbursts.

Now, recognizing unconscious impulses as very high-risk behaviour let's talk a little bit more about the necessity for developing impulse control. Impulse control and lack thereof of course, non-existent impulse control includes problems with control over urges and demands for immediate gratification and poor behaviour restraints. Poor impulse control is generally a characteristic of a person that has a lower ethical conduct that contributes to untrustworthy behaviours. As one learns how to focus one's thought one prevents overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviours and angry reactions. So, as one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience. If we check in and we find we do not like what we may be feeling we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the observer mode. In our community we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the compassionate witness. As a compassionate witness we have no judgement of thoughts or feelings. We hold no judgement of what we are observing in the external. We only observe those thoughts and feelings inside ourselves and others. When we can fully observe through our own compassionate witness we then learn to hold neutrality and stay centred in our core. Then we can immediately find relief from feelings of anxiety or fears and a host of other negative thought distortions.

So, with this in mind let's discuss impulse control because impulse control is the process of learning to stop and look or feel into the consequences of your actions before you commit yourself to something. When we have impulse control we have the ability to stop and process, think or reflect on who else will be affected by our actions. We see the consequences ahead of our action. So, the ability to resist acting on something we feel that we want to do immediately and even sometimes when the consequences are negative this does take some effort to develop. There are two stages in impulse control, which is the ability to pause in order to think through and consider the consequences of actions and the discipline to maintain the delay into actions and not fall into the automatic impulses after the initial delay or pause. When either of this breaks down in these stages it produces problems that can have a great impact on your life.

So, to help us with improving impulse control we must look at the signs of lost control. Acting impulsively and reactively consumes our time, burns away our energies and it robs us of resources. Again it's the hallmark of a weak mind or weak character. It is how the negative forces collect loosh energy and harvest negative emotional energy from human beings. When we lose control in excessive fear, rage or anger we can be easily hijacked and taken over. The person when in the process of losing impulse control many times feels driven or compelled and thinks of nothing else. This is a thought form possession. They may even be possessed by a dark entity at this point. When we lose control over our mind and body much of the time something else slips in to manipulate the situation. The person who lost control may feel like the decision they're making is the only possible answer they have which of course leads to irrational thinking, inaccurate perception and many times incoherence.

Decisions made from fear and anger are usually extremely poor decisions. Many times when a person has an outburst and they've lost control they break trust with the people around him. People will not trust that person any more if they are prone to outbursts. So, obviously when we lose impulse control we set ourselves up for even more problems in our life. Let's think of some strategies. When observing ourselves and others who lose control over their impulses ask yourself who else is affected by my behaviour? Who else will be affected by these impulsive reactions? As we are well aware one person out of control and not emotionally self regulating can destroy unity within a group, destroy relationships, intimacy and connection with other people. Trust can be broken in 30 seconds of blurting out negative words at others. You can harm others with your unconscious words instantly. You can scar a person for life by what you have said. They may never forget what you have blurted out to them in anger. This damages relationships.

If you have issues with impulse control think about how impulsive behaviours affect me. What are the consequences of those reactions? What kind of cause and effect or Karma am I generating for myself when I act unconsciously and let my impulses go? When you're faced with an action and you're feeling emotionally triggered take a breath. Have some patience. Delay the action. Allow yourself some time and distance to think through your action or decision while considering the consequences and alternatives. Your choices in this are important. This is very much related to the intent, consent and authority of where you are placing your consent in the moment.

Find a way to take the time you need to distance yourself from stressful situations or stressful people so that you have some time to be alone and meditate on your decision or action. Regroup in your mind and think back in your past. Consider situations you had to get yourself out of because of impulsive behaviours or reactions and practise these strategies each time you are making a decision for the best outcome or the best result.

Choices are critical for building our consent and authority and it means a lot when we can make our own choices devoid of persuasion from others or through impulsive reactions. When we make our own choices we have the freedom to act on our choices or say "no". Choices put us in charge of ourselves rather than allowing others to take control over us. Consequences from impulsive behaviours include the constant feeding of fears, feeling confused, feeling out of control because we're losing our consent and spinning out of control in our life. The results of acting impulsively and reactively leads to deep internal struggles because a lot of the time your energy is being wasted trying to resolve conflicts in your own mind and many of these problems are imaginary and exaggerated by your own fears and misinterpretation of events. In regards to impulse control its important to reduce stress, as it is the reaction to people that do not cope with stress well. The more overwhelmed you may feel the easier it is to give in to losing impulse control.

So, improving impulse control is very much like strengthening a muscle. The more you exercise it the more it can handle. So, as a basic guideline for extracting fears by replacing negative qualities with positive qualities it is in the monitoring of day-to-day thoughts and behaviours controlling your impulses. We can look to GSF behaviour as a guideline or simply adhere to the Golden Rule. Treat others as you would like to be treated and intend to build self-esteem and confidence through esteeming actions in your interaction with other people.

Knowing that we live on a planet imprisoned through mass broadcasts of the frequency of fear can also be very helpful to disentangle us from the mainstream fear broadcasts and fear-based reaction of people around us. Refuse to take this on. Refuse to wear the frequency of fear. When we can see the fear agendas operating in the external world we can go within. We can sift through what is sourcing from inside us. Becoming aware of what fears may have been taken on through being with fear based people as well as noting outer agendas that use forms of electronic harassment and media based mind control.

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