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Being OK and knowing that things are OK around you is the beginning of returning to the neutral state of the [[Observer Point]]. When we return to everything is okay, I am OK, it corresponds to a person who is relaxed and not feeling fear or anxiety. Learning how to free the mind of primal thinking by learning how to refocus back into neutral and compassionate witnessing, is the direct key to the continual expansion of consciousness and achieving mental and emotional freedom. Practicing the [[Relationship Mastery Guidelines]] skill set in our every day life is very helpful as a replacement guide to dismantle ego defense mechanisms. | Being OK and knowing that things are OK around you is the beginning of returning to the neutral state of the [[Observer Point]]. When we return to everything is okay, I am OK, it corresponds to a person who is relaxed and not feeling fear or anxiety. Learning how to free the mind of primal thinking by learning how to refocus back into neutral and compassionate witnessing, is the direct key to the continual expansion of consciousness and achieving mental and emotional freedom. Practicing the [[Relationship Mastery Guidelines]] skill set in our every day life is very helpful as a replacement guide to dismantle ego defense mechanisms. | ||
==Splitting== | |||
Splitting is a very common [[Ego Defense Mechanism]]. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on their positive or negative attributes. Splitting diffuses the anxiety that arises from our inability to grasp the nuances and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs by simplifying and schematizing the situation and thereby making it easier to think about. It also reinforces our sense of self as good and virtuous by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in our same opinions and values. | |||
On the other hand, such a compartmentalization of opposites leaves us with a distinctly distorted picture of reality and a restricted range of thoughts and emotions; it also affects our ability to attract and maintain relationships, not only because it is tedious and unbecoming, but also because it can easily flip, with friends and lovers being thought of as personified virtue at one time and then as personified vice at another (and back and forth). | |||
Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes - a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, inflexible attitudes of xenophobia.<ref>[https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201203/self-deception-ii-splitting Splitting]</ref> | |||
==Building Self Esteem== | ==Building Self Esteem== | ||