Emotional Manipulation: Difference between revisions

'''Controlling people will always assume that their needs, desires, wants and purposes are always more important than whatever yours may be. Whatever you may be doing or responsibilities you may have, they assert that you need to focus on them and their issues, regardless of the cost it may incur'''. Even though the more sly controlling people may not say that directly, the use of emotional manipulation will tell you that is exactly what they are trying to accomplish. Through emotional manipulation a controlling person will prey upon other people’s empathy and compassion. This is a type of emotional vampire. Controlling behavior runs the gamut in wounded personalities of people that have low self-esteem, fear based thoughts and when these fears are left unchecked, this need to control others may progress into [Narcissism|narcissistic]] and [[Psychopathic]] behaviors. One important point to understand about controlling behavior is that it will always lead to some form of psychological or emotional manipulation which promotes deception and lying.

There is no part of this equation that can be in consent with Krystic forces or god spirit, so this is an imperative piece to master within the self.

First there are many reasons why people feel the need to control people, places and things, as well as manipulate others to fulfill whatever they believe their personal needs, desires and wishes are. We will bring to the surface the most common issues that are based on wounded egos with very little self-esteem and therefore little self-sufficiency.People that are controlling will always use manipulation tactics. This may be subtle techniques or progress into master manipulators like many narcissistic personalities.  Manipulation refers to making attempts at indirectly influencing or controlling someone else's behavior or actions. As human beings, our negative emotions often cloud our discernment making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behavior. The controlling aspects or in depth complexity of perpetuating deceptions are linked to emotional manipulation and are sometimes very subtle and may be easily overlooked. Many times bad habits have been picked up though a unchecked negative ego of which controlling behaviors are buried under feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, fears and low ethical conduct.

When a human being has never been able to grow up from childhood into adulthood with healthy loving parents that support self-esteem, instill a core self and know how to create healthy boundaries, they are easily manipulated from their own pain. When someone is easily manipulated from unhealed trauma, abuse, wounds and lack of self-love, they grow into a sophisticated adult manipulator with an immature and wounded emotional (pain) body. Many people appear to be adults but are severely emotionally wounded and revert to very immature childlike emotional states. Severe emotional wounds create a disconnection from the feeling body of the soul and spirit. Generally the age where the most traumas have been left unhealed from childhood, is the age where the adult will revert to when that wound is triggered in their adult life. When that wound is triggered, most of the time rather than take responsibility for that pain, the person will project the need to manipulate others as the cause of their pain to get what they want. One may observe a person acting like a small child having a tantrum to get what they want. Any parent can tell you what it’s like to have a toddler at two years of age, screaming “Mine!, Gimme!”. This is one reason we observe many adults acting like emotional children, when they do not get their way or they cannot control the environment to get something they want.Most sane people understand that pretending to act to feel a certain way, or toying with another person's emotions, is morally unethical. But some people are so concerned with what they want and have such an inflated concept of their own importance that they have no conscience about manipulating or deceiving others. Worse yet, some people have severe psychological schisms that create personality disorders that may actually play manipulation games for fun or amusement. When dealing with narcissists or psychopaths, it is very important to remember that they are capable of master manipulation techniques and to protect oneself against their antics.The important first step is to set healthy boundaries and to not accept others people’s emotional manipulations and dramas as your priority in life, as they will assert.It is important to be a loving, compassionate and caring human being, but not a doormat to be kicked around through the psychic vampirism that is a direct result of emotional and psychological manipulation.Many techniques of emotional manipulation are very clever, and one can be bewildered by the layers of complex deceit. However, the more educated one becomes, the easier it is to have awareness of this behavior in others and to stop it from occurring in oneself. When we dedicate ourselves to the Krystic pathway we must consciously stop the use of manipulation techniques and controlling behaviors over others. This will minimize the likelihood of someone using emotional manipulation repeatedly to vampirize energies or control one’s sense of empathy for others. We each have the right to defend our own sense of space that belongs to us, and have the capacity to exist without being used as a doormat for others manipulation. The dark controllers clearly disagree with this freedom and are promoters of these very same manipulation techniques.

Creating healthy boundaries and being able to exist in one’s space where one can breathe easy, relax and feel comfortable to be themselves, is everyone’s right. Many times as loving and krystic beings we forget to take care of ourselves in the face of demanding, controlling or manipulating people. This is an important time to take care of oneself and to note that this controlling and manipulating phenomena will increase in the environment due to fear, insecurity and confusion in the masses. Many people are having emotional traumas and tantrums as they revert into childlike behavior. The dark forces take advantage of that vulnerability in people whom have not made an effort to understand and clear their negative ego. These people are prime motivation for dark force manipulation that comes with a person that has bad habits of emotional manipulation.As you become aware of how emotional manipulation works, pay attention to stop all manipulating behaviors in yourself. This is critical at this time.With a Loving heart, Lisa