Counterfeit Conversations
In everyday communication it is very common that people engage in fake conversations to avoid facing conflicts or challenging topics, because they fear the ramifications from what they say. Many people avoid conflicts and run away from saying things that need to be expressed, because they take things too personally and don’t know how to emotionally self-regulate. In considering the impact of choosing to participate in counterfeit conversations, this engages with the root of dishonesty when avoiding saying something that needs to be said when there are conflicts that need to be addressed. Ignoring the issues and dancing around the conflict when you know they are present, will only exacerbate the problem, inviting in dark forces of confusion and chaos. To avoid fake conversations generated on autopilot, take a moment to reflect and to consider a more accurate and truthful way to reply.
When we are congruent with our speech, words, behavior and actions simultaneously, our body language, words, tone, facial expressions become integrated and coherent. If you pay attention to the energetic subtleties revealed in body language, all of the patterns in the person’s expression are matching in a congruent way. Conversely it is made clear when these patterns do not match, revealing that something is off kilter and not congruent within that person. This is usually because the person feels unsafe, their nervous system is in fight-flight and they have to hide behind a façade, with a false identity that engages in counterfeit conversations.
We begin to increase our ability to trust ourselves and live in alignment to our authentic nature when we start being fully present in our communications, by saying what we really mean in order to reflect our personal integrity.[1]