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==What is Emotional Manipulation?==
==What is Emotional Manipulation?==
 
First there are many reasons why people feel the need to [[Controller|control people, places and things]], as well as manipulate others to fulfill whatever they believe their personal needs, desires and wishes are. We will bring to the surface the most common issues that are based on wounded egos with very little [[Self Esteem]] and therefore little self-sufficiency. People that are controlling will always use manipulation tactics. This may be subtle techniques or progress into master manipulators like many [[Narcissism|Narcissistic]] personalities.  Manipulation refers to making attempts at indirectly influencing or controlling someone else's behavior or actions. As human beings, our negative emotions often cloud our [[Discernment]] making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behavior. The controlling aspects or in depth complexity of perpetuating deceptions are linked to [[Emotional Manipulation]] and [[Lying Techniques]] and are sometimes very subtle and may be easily overlooked. Many times bad habits have been picked up though a unchecked negative ego of which controlling behaviors are buried under feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, fears and low ethical conduct.
 
First there are many reasons why people feel the need to control people, places and things, as well as manipulate others to fulfill whatever they believe their personal needs, desires and wishes are. We will bring to the surface the most common issues that are based on wounded egos with very little self-esteem and therefore little self-sufficiency. People that are controlling will always use manipulation tactics. This may be subtle techniques or progress into master manipulators like many narcissistic personalities.  Manipulation refers to making attempts at indirectly influencing or controlling someone else's behavior or actions. As human beings, our negative emotions often cloud our discernment making it difficult to see the reality behind hidden agendas or motives in different forms of behavior. The controlling aspects or in depth complexity of perpetuating deceptions are linked to emotional manipulation and are sometimes very subtle and may be easily overlooked. Many times bad habits have been picked up though a unchecked negative ego of which controlling behaviors are buried under feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, fears and low ethical conduct.


==Motivation of Manipulators==
==Motivation of Manipulators==
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==Common Manipulation Techniques==
==Common Manipulation Techniques==
What are some of the most common Manipulation techniques?
What are some of the most common Manipulation techniques?


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PRETENDING TO WANT TO HELP:  This is a big issue in any group, community or organizational setting. Certainly this is a painful issue we have dealt with here in the ES community. Manipulators and control freaks actually like to pretend to be helpful even though that is not really their real motivation. What they really want is a sense of control over something or access to someone. It may be that there is some power trip, status or personal goal that is believed can be achieved by pretending to be helpful to someone else. Many times these people create a lot of destruction and extra work in the guise of” being helpful”. Then when the person/organization who is supposed to be receiving the help is getting a bunch of extra problems, the person uses guilt trips to say how unappreciated and undervalued they really are. Open communication and assessment of qualifications and emotional maturity are a must in any organization which concerns a group.
PRETENDING TO WANT TO HELP:  This is a big issue in any group, community or organizational setting. Certainly this is a painful issue we have dealt with here in the ES community. Manipulators and control freaks actually like to pretend to be helpful even though that is not really their real motivation. What they really want is a sense of control over something or access to someone. It may be that there is some power trip, status or personal goal that is believed can be achieved by pretending to be helpful to someone else. Many times these people create a lot of destruction and extra work in the guise of” being helpful”. Then when the person/organization who is supposed to be receiving the help is getting a bunch of extra problems, the person uses guilt trips to say how unappreciated and undervalued they really are. Open communication and assessment of qualifications and emotional maturity are a must in any organization which concerns a group.


NO ACCOUNTABILITY: When we understand how manipulation works, we want to discern the situation or person for accountability. Manipulators will always blame others for their misdeeds, bad behavior or misfortune. If they are progressed to narcissism, they may believe they are perfect and beyond reproach. Stopping the blaming game of manipulators is the key to preventing this kind of deception to take hold. If a person starts with shameless blaming or making it your fault when its clearly not, do not be intimidated and tell the truth.
NO ACCOUNTABILITY: When we understand how manipulation works, we want to discern the situation or person for [[Accountability]]. Manipulators will always blame others for their misdeeds, bad behavior or misfortune. If they are progressed to narcissism, they may believe they are perfect and beyond reproach. Stopping the blaming game of manipulators is the key to preventing this kind of deception to take hold. If a person starts with shameless blaming or making it your fault when its clearly not, do not be intimidated and tell the truth.


DOUBLESPEAK:  Manipulators like to take any statement that has been said and turn it around or twist its meaning in order to use it against you. Usually with manipulators that are good with doublespeak the conversation will be mixed with ambiguous and confusing language that together when it all adds up does not make any logical sense.  Many times it’s a lot of words, with no meaning or substance. Sometimes a part of it may make sense but the rest of the conversation has no connection to what has been said.  Doublespeak is a lack of coherence, the person may come off as intelligent using certain words, but they are either confused or attempting to confuse others away from seeing the truth.  You may have listened to this person talk for an hour, and have no idea what the point really was in the conversation.  This may also happen a lot in relationships with close emotional bonds and will effectively destroy the trust and intimacy between people. When we use private or vulnerable issues and we use as a weapon for doublespeak, it is emotionally damaging. Speaking what you mean and expressing clear, accurate words, is extremely important. Say what you mean and do what you say.
DOUBLESPEAK:  Manipulators like to take any statement that has been said and turn it around or twist its meaning in order to use it against you. Usually with manipulators that are good with [[Doublespeak]] the conversation will be mixed with ambiguous and confusing language that together when it all adds up does not make any logical sense.  Many times it’s a lot of words, with no meaning or substance. Sometimes a part of it may make sense but the rest of the conversation has no connection to what has been said.  [[Doublespeak]] is a lack of coherence, the person may come off as intelligent using certain words, but they are either confused or attempting to confuse others away from seeing the truth.  You may have listened to this person talk for an hour, and have no idea what the point really was in the conversation.  This may also happen a lot in relationships with close emotional bonds and will effectively destroy the trust and intimacy between people. When we use private or vulnerable issues and we use as a weapon for [[Doublespeak]], it is emotionally damaging. Speaking what you mean and expressing clear, accurate words, is extremely important. Say what you mean and do what you say.


PSYCHIC VAMPIRE:  A psychic vampire is a person who drain others energies and may intentionally drain any positive energy or happiness in another. Manipulation tactics to make a generally happy person feel bad or to take their energy away, the vampire will use condescending or belittling behavior. They may use intimidation and bullying to make another feel unsafe, or completely dependent on them. Generally these people put others on edge, where one feels they must walk on egg shells to not upset this person, or get their wrath. You may not know what sets them off at any moment. If you notice the energy wither away whenever a certain person walks into the room, you should protect yourself and amplify your 12D shield.
PSYCHIC VAMPIRE:  A psychic vampire is a person who drain others energies and may intentionally drain any positive energy or happiness in another. Manipulation tactics to make a generally happy person feel bad or to take their energy away, the vampire will use condescending or belittling behavior. They may use intimidation and bullying to make another feel unsafe, or completely dependent on them. Generally these people put others on edge, where one feels they must walk on egg shells to not upset this person, or get their wrath. You may not know what sets them off at any moment. If you notice the energy wither away whenever a certain person walks into the room, you should protect yourself and amplify your [[12D Shield]].


Creating healthy boundaries and being able to exist in one’s space where one can breathe easy, relax and feel comfortable to be themselves, is everyone’s right. Many times as loving and krystic beings we forget to take care of ourselves in the face of demanding, controlling or manipulating people. This is an important time to take care of oneself and to note that this controlling and manipulating phenomena will increase in the environment due to fear, insecurity and confusion in the masses. Many people are having emotional traumas and tantrums as they revert into childlike behavior. The dark forces take advantage of that vulnerability in people whom have not made an effort to understand and clear their negative ego. These people are prime motivation for [[Dark Force Manipulation Methods| dark force manipulation]] that comes with a person that has bad habits of emotional manipulation. As you become aware of how emotional manipulation works, pay attention to stop all manipulating behaviors in yourself. This is critical at this time.With a Loving heart, Lisa
Creating healthy boundaries and being able to exist in one’s space where one can breathe easy, relax and feel comfortable to be themselves, is everyone’s right. Many times as loving and krystic beings we forget to take care of ourselves in the face of demanding, controlling or manipulating people. This is an important time to take care of oneself and to note that this controlling and manipulating phenomena will increase in the environment due to fear, insecurity and confusion in the masses. Many people are having emotional traumas and tantrums as they revert into childlike behavior. The dark forces take advantage of that vulnerability in people whom have not made an effort to understand and clear their negative ego. These people are prime motivation for [[Dark Force Manipulation Methods| dark force manipulation]] that comes with a person that has bad habits of [[Emotional Manipulation]]. As you become aware of how emotional manipulation works, pay attention to stop all manipulating behaviors in yourself. This is critical at this time.With a Loving heart, Lisa


==References==
==References==


[[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/2415-what-is-emotional-manipulation Emotional Manipulation]]
[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/2415-what-is-emotional-manipulation Emotional Manipulation]




(Source adapted from research material at: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation, www.wikihow.com/Pick-Up-on-Manipulative-Behavior, yahoo.com/emotional-manipulation-protect-yourself-8831699.html)
(Source adapted from research material at: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation, www.wikihow.com/Pick-Up-on-Manipulative-Behavior, yahoo.com/emotional-manipulation-protect-yourself-8831699.html)


==See Also==
[[Lying Techniques]]
[[Twilight Mastery]]


[[Group Consciousness]]




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