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[[Splitting]] is a very common [[Ego Defense Mechanism]]. Splitting (also called black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking) is the failure in a person's thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on their positive or negative attributes. Splitting diffuses the anxiety that arises from our inability to grasp the nuances and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs by simplifying and schematizing the situation and thereby making it easier to think about. It also reinforces our sense of self as good and virtuous by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in our same opinions and values.
[[Splitting]] is a very common [[Ego Defense Mechanism]]. Splitting (also called black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking) is the failure in a person's thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on their positive or negative attributes. Splitting diffuses the anxiety that arises from our inability to grasp the nuances and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs by simplifying and schematizing the situation and thereby making it easier to think about. It also reinforces our sense of self as good and virtuous by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in our same opinions and values.


On the other hand, such a compartmentalization of opposites leaves us with a distinctly distorted picture of reality and a restricted range of thoughts and emotions; it also affects our ability to attract and maintain relationships, not only because it is tedious and unbecoming, but also because it can easily flip, with friends and lovers being thought of as personified virtue at one time and then as personified vice at another (and back and forth).
On the other hand, such a compartmentalization of opposites leaves us with a distinctly distorted picture of reality and a restricted range of thoughts and emotions; it also affects our ability to attract and maintain relationships, not only because it is tiresome and draining, but also because it can easily flip, with friends and lovers being thought of as personified virtue at one time and then as personified vice at another (flipping back and forth).


Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes - a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, inflexible attitudes of xenophobia. This is intense or irrational dislike or fear of people that we consider are strangers or unfamiliar to us. <ref>[https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201203/self-deception-ii-splitting Splitting]</ref>
Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes - a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, inflexible attitudes of xenophobia. Xenophobia is intense or irrational dislike or fear of people that we consider strangers or are unfamiliar to us. <ref>[https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201203/self-deception-ii-splitting Splitting]</ref>


==Splitting in Relationships==
==Splitting in Relationships==