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Transcript: Many times what we fear in others is the hidden unconscious behaviour and [[Unconscious Impulses]] that we have not cleared from within our deepest selves. Until we are willing to look at hidden fears we can easily project or transfer our fears onto other people especially with our unconscious impulses or [[Negative Ego]] outbursts. | Transcript: Many times what we fear in others is the hidden unconscious behaviour and [[Unconscious Impulses]] that we have not cleared from within our deepest selves. Until we are willing to look at hidden fears we can easily [[Projection|project or transfer]] our fears onto other people especially with our unconscious impulses or [[Negative Ego]] outbursts. | ||
Now, recognizing unconscious impulses as very high-risk behaviour, let's talk a little bit more about the necessity for developing [[Impulse Control]]. Impulse control and lack thereof of course, non-existent impulse control includes problems with control over urges and demands for immediate gratification and poor behaviour restraints. Poor impulse control is generally a characteristic of a person that has a lower ethical conduct that contributes to [[Untrustworthy Behaviors]]. As one learns how to focus one's thought one prevents overwhelming states of [[Emotional Triggers|emotion from triggering]] impulsive behaviours and angry reactions. So, as one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through [[Spirit of Patience|applied patience]]. If we check in and we find we do not like what we may be feeling we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the [[Observer Point|observer mode]]. In our community we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the [[Compassionate Witness]]. As a compassionate witness we have no judgement of thoughts or feelings. We hold no judgement of what we are observing in the external. We only observe those thoughts and feelings inside ourselves and others. When we can fully observe through our own compassionate witness we then learn to hold neutrality and stay centred in our core. Then we can immediately find relief from feelings of anxiety or fears and a host of other negative thought distortions. | Now, recognizing unconscious impulses as very high-risk behaviour, let's talk a little bit more about the necessity for developing [[Impulse Control]]. Impulse control and lack thereof of course, non-existent impulse control includes problems with control over urges and demands for immediate gratification and poor behaviour restraints. Poor impulse control is generally a characteristic of a person that has a lower ethical conduct that contributes to [[Untrustworthy Behaviors]]. As one learns how to focus one's thought one prevents overwhelming states of [[Emotional Triggers|emotion from triggering]] impulsive behaviours and angry reactions. So, as one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through [[Spirit of Patience|applied patience]]. If we check in and we find we do not like what we may be feeling we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the [[Observer Point|observer mode]]. In our community we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the [[Compassionate Witness]]. As a compassionate witness we have no judgement of thoughts or feelings. We hold no judgement of what we are observing in the external. We only observe those thoughts and feelings inside ourselves and others. When we can fully observe through our own compassionate witness we then learn to hold neutrality and stay centred in our core. Then we can immediately find relief from feelings of anxiety or fears and a host of other negative thought distortions. |