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By using these tactics, narcissists create a "fog" that makes it difficult for their targets to see the truth, understand their own feelings, or make decisions in their own best interest. The emotional manipulation and control associated with the "fog" can have long-term effects on the victim's mental and physical health, leading to anxiety, depression, and other issues. | By using these tactics, narcissists create a "fog" that makes it difficult for their targets to see the truth, understand their own feelings, or make decisions in their own best interest. The emotional manipulation and control associated with the "fog" can have long-term effects on the victim's mental and physical health, leading to anxiety, depression, and other issues. | ||
==CAVA:Control, Approval, Validation, Attention== | |||
Narcissists often exhibit a pattern of seeking constant attention, validation, and admiration, using control tactics to maintain their position of perceived superiority, and may lack empathy, while often dismissing or invalidating others' feelings. | |||
In a YouTube video by behavior expert Chase Hughes, he outlines effective strategies for identifying and handling manipulative behavior. Using the acronyms FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) and CAVA (Control, Approval, Validation, Attention), Hughes explains how to categorize manipulative tactics and uncover the manipulator's underlying goals. He advises recognizing the core intention behind manipulative behavior and addressing it without validating the manipulation itself. Techniques include mirroring the manipulator's intentions rather than reacting emotionally, staying calm to disrupt their control, and reframing manipulative statements as straightforward requests. Silent reflection, calmly labeling manipulative tactics, and using curiosity or controlled choices are key strategies to disarm manipulation while maintaining composure.<ref>[https://www.understandnarcissism.com/knowledge-hub/behavior-expert-reveals-exactly-what-to-say-to-a-narcissist Understanding Narcissism]</ref><ref>[Psychological Warfare Expert Chase Hughes]</ref> | |||
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