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Why do they act so bossy? What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs out of balance.
Why do they act so bossy? What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs out of balance.
==Reducing Anxiety==
==Reducing Anxiety==
The mistaken belief that what I can control can't hurt me drives the behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by the fear that they will lose control, or at least needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every threat. They lose track of what they can changeand what they cannot. They chose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety. There is certainly enough to worry about: the ambitious boss-under-pressure worries the work won't get done, envious co-workers worry you'll get the promotion instead of them, jealous adults worry about their partners; scarcity leads to resource contention, stature-conscious, resentful, or caring but inept parents worry about the kids; and tormented, willful, or confused kids worry about the parents and each other. It must be exhausting.Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, unless you try to control the uncontrollable or change the unchangeable. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat.
What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs that are out of balance and potentially destructive.


The mistaken belief that what I can control fully, cannot hurt me drives the [[Negative Ego]] behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by their internal fear that they will lose control, or at least the needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every perceived threat, whether real or imagined. They lose track of what they can change and what they cannot change. They choose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety by controlling and manipulating others around them.
The [[Consumptive Model]] of energy vampirism that exerts control over others and manipulating scenarios is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, feeling powerless.  Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to their needs, belief systems, or whatever else.


==Getting it Right==
==Getting it Right==