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The [[Consumptive Modeling]] of energy vampirism that exerts control over others and manipulating scenarios is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, feeling powerless. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to their needs, belief systems, or whatever else. | The [[Consumptive Modeling]] of energy vampirism that exerts control over others and manipulating scenarios is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Exerting control prevents learned helplessness, feeling powerless. Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat to their needs, belief systems, or whatever else. | ||
== | ==Perfectionism== | ||
An obsession with | An obsession with perfectionism and when driven by the fear of failure may also result in manipulating and controlling behavior. Perhaps the control freak just cares more than you do about the goal. They may see the goal as much more important than the human relationship, and they don't have the skill or see how they can preserve both. The control freak is deathly afraid of personal failure, which means to them a lack of self worth, thus, they do not trust anyone else to get it right. If one is in a job with a micromanaging boss it may be helpful to try to establish a better working relationship, through compassionate feelings of empathy and concern. While demonstrating one's interest, concern, dedication, knowledge, and competency; keep the boss informed, and request more autonomy in the work or project. Address any fears, apply effort to understand the pressures they may face from their point of view, and they may allow you the space you need to contribute your best. | ||
==Impatience== | ==Impatience== |