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As we move into this new time cycle, this places more pressure upon the represented polarities of the masculine and feminine principle. This brings to the forefront the male and female energies within our self, others, and how we orientate in the environment around us to bring these energies into balance. We are being pushed to find new ways to compassionately communicate with our wounded male and female parts, and to find more enlightened perspectives with how we interact between [[Gender Principle]], the male and female. Our relationships and interactions will be emphasized in this way to recognize old perspectives and clear out gender conflict issues. <ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/2254-compassionate-communication Compassionate Communication]</ref>
[[File:Where to Start.png|thumb|Where Can I start?]]


Some of these issues that exist between men and woman are extremely wounded and painful. So this presents an opportunity to learn better skill sets with [[Compassionate Communication]] through [[Relationship Mastery Guidelines]]. Non Violent Communication (NVC) is a very productive method to learn how to apply nonviolent communication or [[Compassionate Communication]] towards every aspect of your interpersonal relationships. As we face these issues, may these NVC principles and methods empower you on the way to improved self-mastery, which is deeply related to how we communicate and perceive others around us. Focusing on the intentions of conflict resolution, is a very powerful process to bring peace and harmony between opposing views and interactions.
We realize that there is so much variety in the individual [[Ascension Stages]] and our material compiled here may be overwhelming to navigate. Please take in only what feels right for you and discard the rest. However, we have some quick suggestions on how to begin right now. Take a 30 day challenge with the [[12D Shield]] and refocusing your [[Ego Mind]] and see the results you get with daily use!


==Conflict Resolution Skills==
The following is important information and steps to introduce you to the ES material and provide tools to utilize right away! Please browse and try out all the material as you feel guided, however, please note: the [[Ascension]] material is densely packed with information and often overwhelming for people newly acquainting with these terms. Take it in at your own pace, however, remain consistent and dedicated with your practice and you will experience many improvements, such as in mental and emotional freedom.  
Nonviolent Communication holds that most conflicts between individuals or groups arise from miscommunication about their human needs, due to coercive or manipulative language that aims to induce fear, guilt, shame, etc. These "violent" modes of communication, when used during a conflict, divert the attention of the participants away from clarifying their needs, their feelings, their perceptions, and their requests, thus perpetuating the conflict.  


NVC trainers Inbal and Miki Kashtan characterize the assumptions underlying NVC as:
* Activate your [[12D Shield]] as a Daily Practice Meditation
* Clear [[Negative Ego]] Fear Programs


* All human beings share the same needs
* Mental Discipline through Devoted Focus and [[Meditation]] to [[Expanding Consciousness|Expand Consciousness]]
* Our world offers sufficient resources for meeting everyone's basic needs
* All actions are attempts to meet needs
* Feelings point to needs being met or unmet
* All human beings have the capacity for compassion
* Human beings enjoy giving
* Human beings meet needs through interdependent relationships
* Human beings change
* Choice is internal
* The most direct path to peace is through self-connection


* Resolve Emotional Conflicts in the [[Pain Body]].


==Intentions==
* [[ES Core Triad]] Daily Techniques.


* Open-Hearted Living* Self-compassion
* Expressing from the heart
* Receiving with compassion
* Prioritizing connection
* Moving beyond "right" and "wrong" to using needs-based assessments
* Choice, Responsibility, Peace
* Taking responsibility for our feelings
* Taking responsibility for our actions
* Living in peace with unmet needs
* Increasing capacity for meeting needs
* Increasing capacity for meeting the present moment
* Sharing Power (Partnership)
* Caring equally for everyone’s needs
* Using force minimally and to protect rather than to educate, punish, or get what we want without agreement


All of these steps are a part of committing to the [[ES Core Triad]] practices every day.


==Communication that Blocks Compassion==  
==Educate Yourself==
NVC suggests that certain ways of communicating tend to alienate people from the experience of compassion:
[[File:Educate.png|thumb|Educate Yourself]]
Moralistic judgments implying wrongness or badness on the part of people who don't act in harmony with our values. Blame, insults, put-downs, labels, criticisms, comparisons, and diagnoses are all said to be forms of judgment. (Moralistic judgments are not to be confused with value judgments as to the qualities we value.) The use of moralistic judgments is characterized as an impersonal way of expressing oneself that does not require one to reveal what is going on inside of oneself. This way of speaking is said to have the result that "Our attention is focused on classifying, analyzing, and determining levels of wrongness rather than on what we and others need and are not getting."
* To Discern which Thought Impulses source from Lower-Higher Self and [[Mind Control]] Agendas. Learn how to feel, develop [[HSP]] and Self Source personal thoughts. What are you thinking? Is it [[GSF Behavior|spiritually healthy]]?


Demands that implicitly or explicitly threaten listeners with blame or punishment if they fail to comply.
* Learn how to be Psycho-Emotionally Balanced to create a Centered Spiritual Self, (See Below)
Denial of responsibility via language that obscures awareness of personal responsibility. It is said that we deny responsibility for our actions when we attribute their cause to: vague impersonal forces; our condition, diagnosis, personal or psychological history; the actions of others; the dictates of authority; group pressure; institutional policy, rules, and regulations; gender roles, social roles, or age roles; or uncontrollable impulses.
Making comparisons between people.


A premise of deserving, that certain actions merit reward while others merit punishment.  
* To comprehend the Insidious Nature of [[Mind Control]] used on this planet.


==Focus on Four Components==
*  Develop Road Map to clear [[Negative Ego]] Impulses and develop Immunity to Thought Control and Automaton Behaviors.
NVC invites practitioners to focus attention on four components:


Observation: the facts (what we are seeing, hearing, or touching) as distinct from our evaluation of meaning and significance. NVC discourages static generalizations. It is said that "When we combine observation with evaluation others are apt to hear criticism and resist what we are saying." Instead, a focus on observations specific to time and context is recommended.
* To Discern False New Age Channeling or Modalities or Presumed Authority that want to take your Power or Manipulate through Lower Emotional States. Avoid New Age Material Hijacked with [[Consumptive Modeling|Vampirism]] or Cult mentality.


Feelings: emotions or sensations, free of thought and story. These are to be distinguished from thoughts (e.g., "I feel I didn't get a fair deal") and from words colloquially used as feelings but which convey what we think we are (e.g., "inadequate"), how we think others are evaluating us (e.g., "unimportant"), or what we think others are doing to us (e.g., "misunderstood", "ignored"). Feelings are said to reflect whether we are experiencing our needs as met or unmet. Identifying feelings is said to allow us to more easily connect with one another, and "Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts."
* To Discern [[Emotional Manipulation]] at the many levels its perpetrated in your life and be free of its impact upon you.


Needs: universal human needs, as distinct from particular strategies for meeting needs. It is posited that "Everything we do is in service of our needs."
* To Claim 100% Responsibility for your Thoughts and Emotional States through Personal Self Containment and Inner  Sustainability.


Request: request for a specific action, free of demand. Requests are distinguished from demands in that one is open to hearing a response of "no" without this triggering an attempt to force the matter. If one makes a request and receives a "no" it is recommended not that one give up, but that one empathize with what is preventing the other person from saying "yes," before deciding how to continue the conversation. It is recommended that requests use clear, positive, concrete action language.<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/2254-compassionate-communication Compassionate Communication]</ref>
* This develops your Inner Personal Power to [[Commanding Personal Space|Command Dominion within Your Personal Space]] – [[GSF]]!


==How to Refocus your Mind==
[[File:Refocus.png|thumb|Refocus Your mind]]
The above is a graph of a Psychological Centering Model to use to better gauge thoughts that are recurring in either polarity. The two main polarity groups the brain likes to occupy itself with are “Superior” or “Inferior” thoughts.
When using your Mental Discipline Refocus technique 1, identify the thought as stemming from [[Negative Ego]] (Reptilian) Brain and Revalue it from its control over your emotional body and your other selves. When you drop into either an Inferior or Superior thought-form immediately label it as [[Negative Ego]] and Dis-Identify with the thought as defining your value or true nature. Do not let negative thoughts control you. '''Refocus and affirm the correct thought pattern.'''
Success happens when you do not allow yourself to go into “Auto Response” triggers. Identify the “trigger” thought-form and immediately “Re-label” it as it is happening in your perception. The faster you identify the trigger and stop letting your mind go on “auto-pilot”, the faster you will see success through “relief”. The goal is to not feel a negative response or emotional charge to any thought-form that used to trigger negative thoughts, such as panic and anxiety. You want to remain in neutral association to the trigger thought pattern. '''When you correct the thought, you can mentally command neutral association to the pattern to correct it.'''
==Inquiry on Attention==
What is your priority in your life? Where do you place your attention and focus?
Without a clear foundation set for developing the inner core essence as our first priority, we can be bombarded with energetic slime and become a doormat, sacrificial lamb or parasite food. This causes our energetic body to be clouded with astral debris and therefore exist within a confused state of inner perception. Being unclear and directed from ego judgment in any kind of perception, whether towards yourself or others, is energetically draining and completely unsustainable in the new energy platform.  For these reasons we must learn to become aware of our thoughts and emotions, as well as our behaviors and the impact they have on ourselves and others.
Developing [[Self Awareness]] does not happen automatically through reading books or mental concepts. It is through specific activities and feeling experiences that we are able to increase our power of observation. It is the power of observation or witnessing, that gives us the personal power to change our core beliefs (when we are made aware of them) that may be destructive or create blockages to connect with our inner spirit.
How do your thoughts and words impact how you feel?
How do your instinctual desires unconsciously drive your behaviors?
How do hidden core beliefs affect your day to day happiness?
Do an inventory of personal thoughts and identify them as Inferior or Superior**, or as love thoughts or fear thoughts. Make a choice right now which thoughts you want to own and those you want to discard. As a goal use the above spiritual self-centering model to keep your mind balanced and stay in centered loving and neutral thoughts. How long can you stay there in the center? Make it a goal to improve your ability to stay within the essence and energy of the keywords that maintain your spiritual center. Bring yourself back to center with breath, and applying neutral association to circumstances when you fall out of inner balance.
* Superior Thinking: Intolerance, Impatience, Arrogance, Manipulation, Attack, Anger, Judgmental thinking
* Inferior Thinking: Worry, Low Self Love or Esteem, Jealousy, Guilt, Hurt, Fear, Attachment, Martrydom<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/ascension-tools/clear-negative-ego Clear Negative Ego]</ref>
==What are your Beliefs?==
Motivation influences perception, Perception influences beliefs, Beliefs influence actions.
* Motivations
* Perceptions
* Beliefs
* Actions
The three major motivation problems to overcome in the Buddhist tradition are greed, anger and delusion. If these constitute much of your motivation then your perceptions, beliefs and actions can be twisted. This may be a helpful model to help with understanding ourselves better as well as the motivation of others around us.
==Building Self Esteem==
[[Self Esteem]] is the value of a person’s worth and there are a lot of factors that come into play, especially in helping a person fell more confident about himself, which is also a primary factor in establishing a person’s outlook towards personal inspiration and feeling as a success. On the spiritual [[Ascension]] pathway, recognizing the importance of character building as a necessary part of having self love and self acceptance is critical to progress through self deception blocks. When we have low self esteem our psychological defense mechanisms will act to block our progress moving forward and evolving in life. One who understands they are a loved and worthy spiritual vessel for the spirit of God Source, will begin to learn that self love is at the core of self acceptance which is the quality one must build to truly feel and experience God's love for all of us. Once we feel [[Law of One|love for ourselves]] we build inner confidence which further [[Trust, Building Trust|builds our trust]] with life.


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==See Also:==
 
[[Meditation]]
 
[[Law of One]]
 
[[Virtues]]


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