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To build inner Coherence, and ultimately find harmony with the world as it exists now, the first major task is to improve our emotional competency. Emotional Competence refers to one's ability to express or release one's inner feelings and emotions in positive or productive ways. It allows the ease to communicate with other people, the ability to face stressful challenges without indulging in destructive behaviors, and determines one's ability to effectively and successfully self-lead and communicate in social situations. Emotional Competence is an essential social skill to recognize and interpret, including the capacity to respond positively to emotions in our selves and others. Emotional competence creates an increased energetic coherence, as well as improved health, through avoiding stress that comes as the result of suppressed emotions. It leads to improved relationships since destructive emotions are far less likely to be expressed, while appropriate communication is not avoided through unhealed fears of triggering some unwanted emotion. We all can learn to free ourselves from anger, hate, resentment, vengeance, and other destructive emotions that cause hurt and pain.

When strengthening our character, by increasing our tolerance and Compassion for others, we help to develop Emotional Competence, as well as more confidence and Self Esteem. These qualities help us to have a better understanding and interpretation of what is actually happening around us, which increases our accuracy in the Discernment of events. Negative and destructive emotions that are suppressed and hidden greatly cloud our discernment and interpretation of events in our life.

What emotions can you recognize and describe?
How well can you interpret what your emotions are telling you?
How successfully do you respond to emotions in yourself and others?

Without personal goals of desiring to increase our emotional competence and being honest with ourselves, we risk playing out destructive emotions in our self-talk, and when interacting with others. Unfortunately, if we do not heal our negative emotions, we will become prisoners of this inner violence, without understanding why we have been consumed in pain throughout so much of our lives. When we are prisoners of our own Inner Violence, we are in bondage to the negative behaviors that fuel levels of psychosis or neurosis. This unhealed state of inner violence leads to splitting behaviors of the Negative Ego. As a result of the bifurcation, if unhealed inner violence is still present, these uncleared negative energies create a lot of pain and suffering that commonly produce Splitting Behaviors in people. (For more tools see www.emotionalcompetency.com)^[1]

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-[[Splitting Behaviors]] is a very common [[Ego Defense Mechanism]] that results in a lack of coherence or fragmentation. Splitting (also called black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking), is the failure in a person's thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive realistic whole. Usually one small piece of the overall picture is focused upon, while ignoring other details that the person is not willing to look at. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on the judgments or perceptions of positive or negative attributes. Splitting is a coping mechanism which diffuses the internal anxiety that arises from our inability to grasp the subtleties and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs. The situation is broken down into smaller parts in order to simplify and organize the situation in such way that makes it easier to think about, and to rationalize the way we think. Splitting also reinforces our sense of self as good and virtuous by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in our same opinions and values. Through the course of growing up from childhood into adulthood, we develop coping skills of labeling people, places or objects in the environment as acceptable or not acceptable, according to our belief systems. Ego defenses are similar to mental racketeering programs commonly used as coping mechanisms for reducing day-to-day anxiety, fears, and obsessions, which are related to thought addiction or the need to [[Controller|control the environment]]. When we are addicted to our thoughts, we have lost balance with our feelings and sensory abilities. These allow us to be fully present in the moment and to be in receptive mode, in order to better discern the environment and its energies.
+To build inner [[Coherence]], and ultimately find harmony with the world as it exists now, the first major task is to improve our emotional competency. [[Emotional Competence]] refers to one's ability to express or release one's inner feelings and emotions in positive or productive ways. It allows the ease to communicate with other people, the ability to face stressful challenges without indulging in destructive behaviors, and determines one's ability to effectively and successfully self-lead and communicate in social situations.  [[Emotional Competence]] is an essential social skill to recognize and interpret, including the capacity to respond positively to emotions in our selves and others. Emotional competence creates an increased energetic coherence, as well as improved health, through avoiding stress that comes as the result of suppressed emotions. It leads to improved relationships since destructive emotions are far less likely to be expressed, while appropriate communication is not avoided through unhealed fears of triggering some unwanted emotion.  We all can learn to free ourselves from anger, hate, resentment, vengeance, and other destructive emotions that cause hurt and pain.
-Such a narrow compartmentalization of opposing energies leaves the person using splitting behaviors with a distinctly distorted picture of reality, which is limited within a small and restricted range of thoughts and emotions. It also affects that person’s ability to attract and maintain relationships, not only because splitting is exasperating and draining, but also because it can easily flip at any moment. One day, friends and lovers are being thought of as personified virtue, and then when something displeases them, they may suddenly think that same person is evil or bad (this is flipping back and forth).
+When strengthening our character, by increasing our tolerance and [[Compassion]] for others, we help to develop [[Emotional Competence]], as well as more confidence and [[Self Esteem]].  These qualities help us to have a better understanding and interpretation of what is actually happening around us, which increases our accuracy in the [[Discernment]] of events. Negative and destructive emotions that are suppressed and hidden greatly cloud our discernment and interpretation of events in our life.
-As we learn how to refocus our thoughts, we can prevent overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviors and angry reactions, expressed as [[Splitting Behaviors]]. As we develop strong impulse control, we are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience and diligence. If we check in and find that we do not like what we are feeling, we can better understand the reasons for that, by further shifting into the observer mode. We call the process of shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling, into neutrally observing it, the observer mode. This requires moving ourselves into the compassionate witness. As a Compassionate Witness we have no judgment of thoughts or feelings, we hold no judgment of what we are observing in the external, we only observe those thoughts and feelings in our self and others. When we can fully observe through our own Compassionate Witness, we then have the possibility of becoming neutral and centered. Then, we can find relief from our inner anxiety, fears and a host of other thought distortions. This process is key to shifting ego defense mechanisms, thought addiction tendencies, and releasing the anxiety or fear of feeling the emotional depth or pain that contributes to [[Splitting Behaviors]]. By continually using an [[Ego Defense Mechanism]] to avoid facing the source causation of the anxiety or deeply rooted fear, (which is unresolved pain or trauma) we are only perpetuating the mental looping, which uses denial of the truth in order to avoid feeling pain or discomfort. Denial of accurate accounts of the truth is the seed of all ego defense mechanisms that stunt our continuing path of emotional and spiritual development.<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/news-shift-timelines/2766-coherence Coherence]</ref>
+* What emotions can you recognize and describe?
+* How well can you interpret what your emotions are telling you?
+* How successfully do you respond to emotions in yourself and others?
-==Splitting in Relationships==
+Without personal goals of desiring to increase our emotional competence and being honest with ourselves, we risk playing out destructive emotions in our self-talk, and when interacting with others. Unfortunately, if we do not heal our negative emotions, we will become prisoners of this inner violence, without understanding why we have been consumed in pain throughout so much of our lives. When we are prisoners of our own [[Inner Violence]], we are in bondage to the negative behaviors that fuel levels of psychosis or neurosis. This unhealed state of inner violence leads to splitting behaviors of the [[Negative Ego]]. As a result of the bifurcation, if unhealed inner violence is still present, these uncleared negative energies create a lot of pain and suffering that commonly produce [[Splitting Behaviors]] in people. (For more tools see www.emotionalcompetency.com)<ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/news-shift-timelines/2766-coherence Coherence]</ref>
-Splitting creates instability in relationships because one person can be viewed as either personified virtue or personified vice at different times, depending on whether they gratify the subject's needs or frustrate them. This, along with similar fluctuations in the experience and appraisal of the self, leads to chaotic and unstable relationship patterns, identity conflicts, and sudden mood swings. The therapeutic and healing process can be greatly impeded by these sudden emotional or mental oscillations, because the therapist or healing tool can be seen as all good or all bad. To attempt to overcome the negative effects of emotional instability and rapidly shifting moods from confusion around personal identity, constant re-interpretations and self-inquiries on personal progress to become more emotionally and mentally stable is needed.
-Splitting contributes to unstable relationships and intense emotional experiences. Splitting is not uncommon during adolescence, but is regarded as temporary. Splitting has been noted especially with persons diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Treatment strategies have been developed for individuals and groups based on opening the dialogue to explore unconscious and conscious behaviors, and for deeper exploration between couples. There are also self-help books on related topics such as mindfulness and emotional regulation that have been helpful for individuals who struggle with the emotionally devastating consequences of splitting.
-==Narcissistic personality disorder==
-People matching the diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder also use splitting as a central [[Ego Defense Mechanism]]. Most often the narcissist does this as an attempt to stabilize their sense of self positivity in order to preserve their [[Self Esteem]], by perceiving themselves as purely upright or admirable and others who do not conform to their will or values as purely wicked or contemptible. Given the narcissist's perverse sense of entitlement and splitting, he or she can be equally geared, psychologically and practically, towards the promotion of projects simultaneously, while promoting the demise of that same collectively beneficial project. The cognitive habit of splitting also implies the use of other related Ego Defense Mechanisms, namely idealization and devaluation, which are preventative attitudes or reactions to narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury.
-==Depression==
-In [[Depression]], exaggerated all-or-nothing thinking can form a self-reinforcing [[Negative Ego]] cycle. These recurring or obsessive thoughts might be called emotional amplifiers because, as they go around and around, looping, and with each cycle of looping, they become more intense. Typical all-or-nothing thoughts:
-* My efforts are either a success or they are an abject failure
-* I am/other people are either all good or all bad
-* if you're not with us, you're against us
-==Triangulation==
-Triangulation is a situation in which one member will not communicate directly with another member, but will communicate with a third member, which can lead to the third member becoming part of the triangle. The concept originated in the study of dysfunctional family systems, but can describe manipulative behaviors used in other systems as well, including work or group dynamics. This is a common method to spin disinformation between multiple parties to increase [[Compartmentalization]] within organizations or employ divide and conquer strategies.
-[[Triangulation]] can also be a form of "Splitting" in which one person plays the third family member against the one that he or she is upset about. This is playing the two people against each other, but usually the person doing the splitting will also engage in some form of character assassination, only with both parties.
-The key word here to remember is [[Character Assassination]]. Gossip and triangulation is the method used for Character Assassination. The NAA [[Victim-Victimizer]] software is specifically designed to assassinate the character of any person that is publicly involved in the Law of One and Ascension material, especially if you are a [[Starseed]] and not culled by them in their programs of mind control, and including [[MILAB]] groomed abductees with genetic enhancements that turn into whistleblowers.
-==Compartmentalization==
-[[Compartmentalization]] need-to-know-basis is a mind control strategy to contain and control the field of academics, scientists, military and government personnel who are complicit in carrying out the destructive and harmful behavior of the [[NAA]] and [[Power Elite]], and are rewarded monetarily and socially for going along with reinforcing the alien invasion of our planet and enslavement of humanity.
-Compartmentalization is the [[Mind Control]] method used to shut down and destroy open mindedness, critical thinking, independent thinking and creative thinking. [[Compartmentalization]] is an unconscious psychological defense mechanism used to avoid cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort and anxiety caused by a person's having conflicting values, cognitions, emotions, beliefs, etc. within themselves. Compartmentalization allows these conflicting ideas to co-exist by inhibiting direct or explicit acknowledgement and interaction between separate compartmentalized self-states. [[Splitting Behaviors]] is the result of the compartmentalization of accurate facts or complex situations, in order to remove the conflicting details that cause one internal anxiety.
-==False Truce==
-False Truce is a Victim-Victimizer software mind control archetype that is used to target spiritually developing people. This is one of the Controller Programs that is a sub program of the Victim-Victimizer software program and a collective miasm that has accumulated over many generations.
-As the [[Victimizer Archetypes]] and related programs that are embedded in the cellular matrix are very enhanced now, especially in adjunct to Life Review patterns for many of us now on the ascension path. This is explosive for some of us now, and I am observing these traps for ensnarement, and like [[Addiction]], are jaws attempting to latch on to our vulnerability.
-A [[False Truce]] is when a person who has had a conflict with another person, is not interested in resolution or ending the conflict, but in promoting the conflict further. This is the guise of pretending that they are perfectly okay with whatever conflict had transpired. Because they have not accepted any [[Accountability]] to their role in the conflict, they will usually spread gossip, defame the character of the other person (Character Assassination), to retaliate for the self-justification they made up from their [[Ego Defense Mechanism]]s.
-==Character Assassination==
-[[Character Assassination]] is a deliberate and sustained process that aims to destroy the credibility and reputation of a person, institution, social group, or nation. Agents of character assassinations employ a mix of open and covert methods to achieve their goals, such as raising false accusations, planting and fostering rumors, and manipulating information.
-[[Character Assassination]] is an attempt to tarnish a person's reputation. It may involve exaggeration, misleading half-truths, or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. It is a form of defamation and can be a form of ad hominem argument.
-For living individuals targeted by character assassination attempts, this may result in being rejected by their community, family, or members of their living or work environment. Such acts are often difficult to reverse or rectify, and the process is likened to a literal assassination of a human life. The damage sustained can last a lifetime or, for historical figures, for many centuries after their death.
-In practice, [[Character Assassination]] may involve [[Doublespeak]], spreading of rumors through [[Malicious Gossip]], innuendo or deliberate misinformation on topics relating to the subject's morals, integrity, and reputation. It may involve spinning information that is technically true, but that is presented in a misleading manner or is presented without the necessary context. For example, it might be said that a person refused to pay any income tax during a specific year, without saying that no tax was actually owed due to the person having no income that year, or that a person was sacked from a firm, even though he may have been made redundant through no fault of his own, rather than being terminated for cause.
-==Transference==
-Transference is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. One definition of transference is the inappropriate repetition in the present time of a relationship pattern from the past that was important in a person's childhood, to which the conflict was never resolved. Another definition is the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object or person. Still another definition is the reproduction of emotions relating to repressed experiences buried in the unconscious mind, and the substitution of another person to be thought to be the cause of these buried emotions, instead of uncovering the original object or causal event of the repressed impulses.
-==Splitter Tech==
-[[Splitter Tech]] is a type of [[AI]] encoding that run as a [[Mind Control]] script that is embedded into a variety of types of media, such as written words, spoken words of an infected individual, video or audio recordings, that can pass on that same scripted code to another person that resonates with that same frequency or information. It reveals a profile that is commonly observed in very academic or intellectually controlled or developed people, and tends to be attached to highly mentalized persons with dominating [[Negative Ego]]s, judgmental perceptions and little to no heart opening. When a person is aware of the [[NAA]] and is also aware of the fact that [[Controller]] forces have a Psychopathic personality, this means they have [[Lack of Empathy]], and no true developed [[Compassion]] for others, as they do not have a [[Soul]], and thus cannot experience any higher emotional spectrum. They are indeed, heart-less, and unable to feel emotions and ruled by instinctual forces.
-To a coherent, clear and energetically balanced person, when reading words or being exposed to Splitter Tech script, it feels like your brain is getting scrambled and thoughts are scattering, and maintaining clear focus is nearly impossible. It also is sprayed as implants to divert attention and focus within a group environment, as one person may be a booby trap with [[Splitter Tech]] that is used to disrupt or divide and conquer the entire group objectives. Patterns include running [[AI]] induced embedded code through a "signal" that may influence a splitting effect, also known as 'bi-polar' or [[Bi-Wave Influences]] to align the target or subject to Metatronic Reversal, [[Metatronic Spiral]] or Entropic Systems of energy.
-As one learns how to refocus one’s thoughts, one prevents overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviors and angry reactions into splitting behaviors. As one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience and diligence. If we check in and find that we do not like what we may be feeling, we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the observer mode. In our community, we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the compassionate witness. As a Compassionate Witness we have no judgment of thoughts or feelings, we hold no judgment of what we are observing in the external, we only observe those thoughts and feelings in our self and others. When we can fully observe through our own Compassionate Witness, we then become neutral and centered. Then, we can immediately find relief from our inner anxiety, fears and a host of other thought distortions. This process is key to shifting ego defense mechanisms, thought addiction tendency and releasing the anxiety or fear of feeling emotional depth or pain that contributes to splitting behaviors. By continually using an ego defense mechanism to avoid facing the source causation of the anxiety or deeply rooted fear, (which is unresolved pain or trauma) we are only perpetuating the mental looping which uses denial of the truth in order to avoid feeling pain or discomfort. Denial of accurate accounts of the truth is the seed of all Ego Defense Mechanisms that stunt our continuing path of emotional and spiritual development. <ref>[http://www.energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/2764-splitting-behaviors Splitting Behaviors Blog]</ref>
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 ==See Also==
-[[Coherence]]
+[[Law of One]]
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