Emotional Intelligence

On the pathway of Spiritual Ascension, we are constantly challenged to address and heal our Pain Body in so that we can increase emotional intelligence which leads to emotional balance. Emotions are like a spectrum of color we can choose when painting the color palette of our life landscape. When we use a certain emotional color, we must realize that we can choose another emotional color and paint over the previous colors which creates a different landscape. Emotions are energetic intelligence that create a color wave spectrum. One does not have to remain stuck in an emotional state if they learn to shift the emotional state through shifting thoughts. If we do not know how to monitor our emotional state and learn to choose consciously our mental attitudes that shape how we feel, we can feel at the mercy of the unhealed instinctual mind or pain body. When the pain body is unhealed, and the ego is dominating ones thoughts, the unhealed emotions buried within the body can surface with mental triggers. This may feel like a banshee whipping us with uncontrollable amounts of painful or negative emotions.

Emotional Freedom

Starseeds and Indigos are especially empathic to environmental energy and this coupled with uncontrolled emotional states can make life a nightmare. If we feel deep overwhelming amounts of emotional pain, this is the sign that the body is communicating that deeper emotional healing work is required in order to find liberation from pain. This is emotional freedom from emotional states taking over one’s life and from allowing ones unruly negative emotions to govern thoughts, behaviors and actions. When we have excessive unhealed pain, abuse or trauma, it interferes with our Higher Sensory Perception. We get our wires crossed with subtle energetic messaging and we get confused easily about things happening in our life. In order to gain accurate assessment of reality, developing energetic discernment, one must clear and clean up emotional conflicts and emotional blockages. Emotional healing is very intimate and requires that we are willing to be vulnerable and open to explore our level of emotional intelligence and feelings.

Lack of Self Awareness

If we have low Self-Awareness from the lack of attention placed on personal emotional- inner feelings exploration, we generally have very low tolerance in dealing with the levels of stress in our lives. This impairs our ability to listen and understand the subtleties of energetic information that is being transmitted to us from the environment and people. When we are emotionally balanced and able to listen and pay attention to the energetic subtleties, we receive a lot of information that helps us to make better decisions in how we communicate or act in accordance to situations we are presented with.

Monitoring Emotional State

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to monitor one's own emotional state and be able to observe other people's emotions and to distinguish between different emotions and identify them appropriately. When emotional states are able to be observed and discerned for their quality, one may use this emotional sensory information to help guide thinking, behavior and actions. The emotional intelligence ability model, developed by Peter Salovey and John Mayer, focuses on the individual's ability to process personal and impersonal emotional information and to develop skills to navigate the social environment.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotion, integrate emotion to help facilitate thought, understand emotions and to regulate emotions that are put in service to promote personal growth in every situation in life. As one increases emotional intelligence this also increases self-awareness and knowledge of the deeper or hidden levels of the self. When one has cultivated emotional intelligence, it lends the capacity to put emotions in proper perspective and to enhance thinking and problem solving. When one has the abilities to accurately perceive emotions, it gives greater access to the source of generated emotions which assist in thought processes and to better understand emotions and emotional knowledge. When we integrate emotional intelligence as a base of self-knowledge, we can reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote increased emotional, intellectual and spiritual growth.

Multidimensional Body Orientation

If we can learn to understand that acquiring emotional intelligence is a form of credible knowledge, this knowledge greatly assists the awareness of emotions as useful sources of information that can help one to make sense of and navigate the social environment. Individuals vary in their ability to process information of an emotional nature based on their personal orientation. People will choose one level of their body which they tend to orientate through and use primarily to acquire information about the environment they are apart. As example, some people are more focused in their physical/active body, mental/social body, or spiritual/energetic bodies. When we are out of balance with ourselves, we limit our self-awareness and stunt our psycho-emotional growth by limiting the body to which we are orientating. The more we can become aware of our deeper emotional states, we increase our ability to relate emotional processing to a much larger and wider perception that crosses into multiple layers of one’s body. Our emotional intelligence ability is increased as we gain mastery over certain behaviors in ourselves that require impulse control.

Emotional Intelligence Model

The emotional intelligence model has four basic types of abilities to help measure ones competency to manage emotional states:

• Perceiving emotions – the ability to detect and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, and cultural artifacts—including the ability to identify one's own emotions. Perceiving emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intelligence, as it makes all other processing of emotional information possible.
• Using emotions – the ability to harness emotions to facilitate various activities which require perception, such as thinking and problem solving. The emotionally intelligent person can benefit fully upon his or her changing moods in order to best fit the task at hand.
• Understanding emotions – the ability to comprehend emotional feeling language and to appreciate complicated relationships among the spectrum of emotions. For example, understanding emotions encompasses the ability to be sensitive to slight variations between emotions, and the ability to recognize and describe how emotions evolve over time.
• Managing emotions – the ability to regulate emotions in both ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.

All humans experience some emotional state that help guide our actions in life. Emotions are experienced as feelings that often occur simultaneously along with our conscious thoughts. The emotional feeling may be subtle and go almost unnoticed, or it may be strong enough that it clearly gets our attention. The emotional feeling may be so strong that it overwhelms our decision making and leads us directly to immediate or impulsive action. As our emotional intelligence increases, one will experience a variety of positive transformations in one’s life. Destructive behavior patterns of the past may transform into more positive behavior as one begins to solve the mysterious puzzle of human interactions and gain a quiet and confident understanding of them. Anxiety may yield to more peaceful, tranquil, and contented feelings as ones deeper emotional understanding increases. One starts to gain improved self-confidence and feel empowered, and less confused and frustrated with circumstances. Overall, one can transform from confused to confident; from clueless to comprehending and enlightened, from fragmented to coherent, from shallow to deep, and from oppressed to liberated, as one learns how to become the authentic self.

Interpretation of Emotions

Once we recognize an emotion we can choose how to react to it. Making good choices requires us to understand the information the emotion is sending us. That we know how to interpret that signal, then consider the choices we have for action, and foresee the consequences of those choices. The many emotions we all feel provide us with many decisions that we are responsible for.

In order to heal the emotions one must discern feelings and discipline the ego. In order to access higher frequency as needed for full DNA repair, one must have a clear heart. Clearing and healing Emotional Trauma is thus a major part of Spiritual Ascension progression and improving ones confidence to cope with life stressors. Learning to discern where an outer impulse, teaching, or apparently high vibrational expression is sourcing from (and whether it is in our best interests to follow) requires having a clear heart and emotional intelligence.

Inner Study of Emotions

Ask to inquire on the inner study of your inner feelings and emotions. One can do this through simply journaling daily (or automatic writing) with the goal to uncover deeper unconscious emotions that may be buried under fears. The state of one’s emotions determine what kind of experience we are having. It is us that determines the quality of our relationships and the quality of our life by the emotions we are feeling and sharing. Our emotions and their lower drives are extremely powerful forces in our lives. Our unresolved emotional conflicts and their fears will keep us from doing the things we love and sabotage our spiritual growth. Our spiritual growth is directly related to our emotional intelligence and emotional balance. This is why spiritual ascension is 99% emotional healing. One must resolve emotional conflicts, wounds, inner fears and pain in order to grow the self-awareness required to become conscious to participate with the spiritual bodies. The soul is the true emotional body, to recover her, we must be willing to heal her through increasing our emotional intelligence.

Emotion Journaling Exercise

To help manage emotions and develop emotional intelligence, emotional journaling as a type of writing therapy may be very helpful . Here is a suggestion to begin:

• Purpose: Getting your emotions down on paper can help you to process difficult times as well as help you with sorting out general emotional problems. A journal acts as a free talk therapist, "someone" you can spill all your feelings too, no matter what, without judgment. Using a journal to self-express can relieve anxiety, help you to understand negative emotional triggers, and resolve problems in your daily life.

• Method: Write down your emotions every day as entirely as possible; re-read them later for insight.

• Long Version

1. Choose a journal. You can use a plain notebook or a fancy one. You might even want to write an anonymous blog. There are also guided journals like Writing to Heal, Writing for Emotional Balance, and Time to Write to Yourself; guided journals may be helpful if you don't know where to start and feel uncomfortably overwhelmed just using the tips below.

2. Before you begin, remember that this journal is personal. Don't try to write masterful prose or try to analyze your feelings too much. Just spill out your emotions as fully and truthfully as possible without self-judgment. Try to write for ten or fifteen minutes straight daily. Afterwards, re-read your writing for possible insight.

3. Start by describing a recent event. Answer all the basic details of who was there, what were they doing, where and when it occurred, and why things happened as they did. Write in detail, using all five senses to describe the moment. Remember, smells and tastes are as important triggers to emotional memory as sight and hearing. Now, express your feelings about this event - how all your sensory inputs and interactions with others made you feel. This exercise helps you to become comfortable with a full-spectrum emotional journaling experience.

4. Now, instead of focusing on an exterior event, focus on an interior feeling. Using the emotional trigger linking techniques above, try to understand the "big picture" of your emotional response. If you are anxious, consider the situations in which your anxiety arises and try to identify its triggers. Express your anxiety in its fullness; do not be ashamed. Nobody will read your personal journal; you must bare your raw feelings as much as possible. You will often find thoughts rising up that you couldn't have expressed otherwise. Follow these thoughts and feelings to their root and try to understand them.

5. You may want to use the event-describing techniques above to examine experiences in your past. Take a life-changing event (whether it is positive or negative) and try to describe it in its fullness. Find all the triggers for emotional response and explore them. You may find links you didn't realize were there!

6. If relationship troubles are part of your life, use your journal as a way to express your feelings and problems without hurting your partner's feelings. You may be able to see the situation more objectively after letting off steam. It also may help you to better pinpoint the reasons behind your anger or sadness so that, when you converse with your partner, you'll be able to resolve them.

7. Notice the words that you use. Sometimes they are the key to deeper feelings within the subconscious. Highlight or underline words and feelings that seem to recur. Try to understand why these particular things are important to the unconscious mind.

History: Diaries and journals have existed for millennia; the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius' famous work Meditations began as a journal expressing his personal philosophy and shows remarkable emotional insight. However, the method of using a diary as a method of personal emotional exploration is mostly a 20th century phenomenon, seen in the journals of figures like Carl Jung. Later, psychologists such as James W. Pennebaker began exploring the very real benefits of emotional journaling with experiments demonstrating that journaling (especially expressing undisclosed or unexamined trauma) strengthened mental wellbeing and even improved physical health.

Notes: Don't overthink while writing. Let your 10-15 minute writing period be stream-of-consciousness and nonstop. Later, after you've expressed all of your feelings, you can re-read what you wrote and analyze it. Do not, however, do it in the moment.

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