Every day we have the opportunity to practice Engaged Detachment which is being in the present moment, in the day to day process of accepting reality as it presents itself, and doing our best to align our actions with what we feel from our heart and mind is rightly aligned, while surrendering the outcome. In order to release a strong attachment to something on the external, we must first identify that we have an attachment by noting the strong emotional triggers, impulses and feelings we experience in regard to that circumstance. Through the practice of self-awareness, we can explore the emotions or triggering that we are feeling in order to get to the core issue we are having, the story we have told ourselves about what is good or bad in the end result of that situation. Through self observation, we can witness heavy emotions that come with strong attachment, and we can hold space for processing that emotional energy to move through us more easily, allowing it to be as it is right now. If we allow things to be as they are in the moment, we can release our desire to control or manipulate the situation in order to get the desired result that our ego believes is the better outcome. Instead, once you have allowed some space to process the emotions related to releasing attachment in this experience, feel, imagine and visualize that you are casting out these emotional burdens to your highest consciousness, or God source.
In order to develop Self Awareness and be present with the inner and outer mental dialogues, one must become the observer or witnessing Consciousness. In order to hold the Observer Point, it requires one to develop the Spirit of Discipline.
Refocusing mental perception from negative or fear based thinking into its positive polarity is achieved through the practice of unconditional love and Forgiveness towards the self and others. Note: focusing on positive thoughts to replace negative thoughts are the first stage of ego discipline, the second stage is applying neutrality or neutral association through sustained singleminded focus, as in inner quiet found during Meditation. This is because many people in Negative Ego behavior misrepresent neutrality as a dissociative reaction to external events or a lack of empathy for others feelings.
Dissociation and Neutrality are not the same state of consciousness, one is disconnected from circumstances, while the latter is connected through self awareness, through the observer point. This process is called Engaged Detachment.