Engaged Detachment
Every day we have the opportunity to practice Engaged Detachment which is being in the present moment, in the day to day process of accepting reality as it presents itself, and doing our best to align our actions with what we feel from our heart and mind is rightly aligned, while surrendering the outcome. In order to release a strong attachment to something on the external, we must first identify that we have an attachment by noting the strong emotional triggers, impulses and feelings we experience in regard to that circumstance. Through the practice of self-awareness, we can explore the emotions or triggering that we are feeling in order to get to the core issue we are having, the story we have told ourselves about what is good or bad in the end result of that situation. Through observation, with heavy emotions that come with strong attachment, we can hold space for processing that emotional energy to move through us, allowing it to be as it is now. If we allow things to be as they are presenting themselves in the moment, we can release our desire to control or manipulate in order to get the desired result our ego believes is better.
In order to develop Self Awareness of being present with the Inner and Outer Dialogues through the Observing Consciousness one will require to develop the Spirit of Discipline.
Refocusing mental perception from Negative Thoughts to its Positive Polarity through Unconditional Love and Forgiveness towards the self and others. Note: focusing on positive thoughts to replace negative thoughts are the first stage of ego discipline, the second stage is applying neutrality or neutral association through sustained focus, as in inner quiet found during meditation. This is because many people in ego behavior misrepresent neutrality as dissociative reaction to external events or others feelings.
Dissociation and Neutrality is not the same state of consciousness, one is disconnected from circumstances, while the latter is connected through awareness, through observer. This is called Engaged Detachment.[1]